Ocarinustino
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I accidentally came across a pic of my favorite fetish and I looked at it for like 3 seconds,realized I am doing bad for reboot and closed it. Did I relapse or is everything ok?
Did I relapse?
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yesyes1234
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No, it's not that bad. You didn't relapse. You probably experienced a spike in dopamine, but it will wear off shortly. The problem is when you actively pursue stimuli like you did during the addiction. Lingering definitely is a bad idea, but you did cut it off rather quickly. And well done that you did!
I can recommend this page:
http://yourbrainonporn.com/what-stimuli-must-i-avoid-during-my-reboot-did-i-relapse
Excerpt:
Take-away: Avoid linking deliberate seeking with arousal. An accidental glimpse isn't chosen. However, dwelling on the image you glimpse, fantasizing about it later, or seeking other images because of it can be counterproductive.
Excerpt 2:
A simple bottom line on what to avoid:
- "Porn" - All types. If you need to ask, then the answer is, 'bad move.' It's simple: artificial vs real.
- Avoid behaviors that mimic YOUR porn addiction. Which usually means behaviors that substitute the synthetic and the two-dimensional for the real deal.
- Eliminating artificial or synthetic means don't engage in "cam to cam" or chat rooms.
- Surfing Facebook, YouTube, or dating sites for pictures and sexual stimuli is like an alcoholic switching to lite beer.
- Fantasizing about porn is nearly the same as watching it, as you are activating your brain's addiction-related pathways.
Reading "erotic" stories counts as porn fantasy
- "What about fantasizing about real women?" It's hard to say. If you are simply replaying porn scenarios, then absolutely not. Read below about fantasy.
Good luck!
I can recommend this page:
http://yourbrainonporn.com/what-stimuli-must-i-avoid-during-my-reboot-did-i-relapse
Excerpt:
Take-away: Avoid linking deliberate seeking with arousal. An accidental glimpse isn't chosen. However, dwelling on the image you glimpse, fantasizing about it later, or seeking other images because of it can be counterproductive.
Excerpt 2:
A simple bottom line on what to avoid:
- "Porn" - All types. If you need to ask, then the answer is, 'bad move.' It's simple: artificial vs real.
- Avoid behaviors that mimic YOUR porn addiction. Which usually means behaviors that substitute the synthetic and the two-dimensional for the real deal.
- Eliminating artificial or synthetic means don't engage in "cam to cam" or chat rooms.
- Surfing Facebook, YouTube, or dating sites for pictures and sexual stimuli is like an alcoholic switching to lite beer.
- Fantasizing about porn is nearly the same as watching it, as you are activating your brain's addiction-related pathways.
Reading "erotic" stories counts as porn fantasy
- "What about fantasizing about real women?" It's hard to say. If you are simply replaying porn scenarios, then absolutely not. Read below about fantasy.
Good luck!
I never understand the point of these type of questions..
What difference does it make?
Your response is the same... stay away from porn..
Putting a label on it only reinforces negative thoughts and feelings and likely leads to justification of a full blown relapse.. (I may as well binge since I've just relapsed and now I can really get a good shot of the dopamine).
What difference does it make?
Your response is the same... stay away from porn..
Putting a label on it only reinforces negative thoughts and feelings and likely leads to justification of a full blown relapse.. (I may as well binge since I've just relapsed and now I can really get a good shot of the dopamine).