skrodriguez
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Wow, more than a week has passed since I posted here. Not sure I like that.
Yay! 40 days! No longer do I have a finished date but I know from personal experience that since I started masturbating back when I was....12/13 years old (I don't remember which it was) I have never managed more than 40 days! The last time I did it I think I edged on a number of occasions so this run has been the best in hardmode. But that is not to say it has been easy. Last Friday was fuuuuucking hard, I had dopamine brain fog from girlfriend fantasy. Trigger. Bad sleep. So predictable. Now it could be that I don't sleep well one night but if for some reason there are no triggers the following day, I'll be fine, the only thing is the lowered impulse control that comes with not sleeping enough.
I think we triggered each other! She MO'd and I went for a walk in the cold. It was really nice and misty. Interestingly, she even sent me a link to a page of erotica which I looked at (not knowing, this is not normal for her) and immediately closed. Then she was saying the videos (of the suggestive type I think, not very visual) where really good. I found I had no problem closing the page and not looking at anything. I told her I wasn't going to look. It didn't trigger me to want to look at more, at all. My biggest trigger is her. The next day I had zero libido. Brain felt dead (sexually). I don't care. If it wants to do that to itself it has to suck it up.
So the last week has had its easier and harder days. Back on the easier and looking forward. I have plenty of energy and good concentration but the desires for MO are still there although now I realise that no matter how strong the urge gets in certain situations, I can actually resist it. One simply doesn't touch and then changes the situation.
What I'm really noticing is how to stop fantasy thoughts from getting going. There is so little time to just absolutely deny it, to starve it and focus on something else. The impulse dies really quickly but I don't always catch it so early, sometimes I'm not even sure I want to which is where I think the actual issue lies. I am finding women very attractive but sexual tends to lead to my girlfriend which I don't have a problem with except that it gets my brain in a rut which I would rather just avoid. You see I feel now that M is just not an option, so why would I want triggers? It's counter-productive. That's the rationale, but the brain has its own things to say y no me hace caso. Faaarck.
So I'm happy with the porn situation. Written stuff is still damn hard for me - like I still find it super stimulating. But not the visuals. I don't even want to look and I never come across it in the course of my normal web behaviour so I like that my internal blocker is working. I'm not sure I'd even like it watching some of those old videos. I won't test, but I just have no desire for that. The patheticness I would feel of myself.
Recognise: brain is still very sensitive. All of the stimulus cannot be removed so it becomes an attitude shift.
Yay! 40 days! No longer do I have a finished date but I know from personal experience that since I started masturbating back when I was....12/13 years old (I don't remember which it was) I have never managed more than 40 days! The last time I did it I think I edged on a number of occasions so this run has been the best in hardmode. But that is not to say it has been easy. Last Friday was fuuuuucking hard, I had dopamine brain fog from girlfriend fantasy. Trigger. Bad sleep. So predictable. Now it could be that I don't sleep well one night but if for some reason there are no triggers the following day, I'll be fine, the only thing is the lowered impulse control that comes with not sleeping enough.
I think we triggered each other! She MO'd and I went for a walk in the cold. It was really nice and misty. Interestingly, she even sent me a link to a page of erotica which I looked at (not knowing, this is not normal for her) and immediately closed. Then she was saying the videos (of the suggestive type I think, not very visual) where really good. I found I had no problem closing the page and not looking at anything. I told her I wasn't going to look. It didn't trigger me to want to look at more, at all. My biggest trigger is her. The next day I had zero libido. Brain felt dead (sexually). I don't care. If it wants to do that to itself it has to suck it up.
So the last week has had its easier and harder days. Back on the easier and looking forward. I have plenty of energy and good concentration but the desires for MO are still there although now I realise that no matter how strong the urge gets in certain situations, I can actually resist it. One simply doesn't touch and then changes the situation.
What I'm really noticing is how to stop fantasy thoughts from getting going. There is so little time to just absolutely deny it, to starve it and focus on something else. The impulse dies really quickly but I don't always catch it so early, sometimes I'm not even sure I want to which is where I think the actual issue lies. I am finding women very attractive but sexual tends to lead to my girlfriend which I don't have a problem with except that it gets my brain in a rut which I would rather just avoid. You see I feel now that M is just not an option, so why would I want triggers? It's counter-productive. That's the rationale, but the brain has its own things to say y no me hace caso. Faaarck.
So I'm happy with the porn situation. Written stuff is still damn hard for me - like I still find it super stimulating. But not the visuals. I don't even want to look and I never come across it in the course of my normal web behaviour so I like that my internal blocker is working. I'm not sure I'd even like it watching some of those old videos. I won't test, but I just have no desire for that. The patheticness I would feel of myself.
Recognise: brain is still very sensitive. All of the stimulus cannot be removed so it becomes an attitude shift.