chickaboomski
Active Member
So here we are. Hitting the 2 year mark that I found the problem to our problems. And here I am again. Back. I don't exactly know what to say. WTF. WT ACTUAL FUCK. 2 years ago I was looking for a medical answer as to why my partner could at that stage of our relationship. About 18 months in. Had climaxed with me about 5-6 times. Why he was not interested in sex with me. And I found here. Back then I was not a prude who looked down on porn. I knew his liking of it. Just never had the dots connected. The following 2 years went like this. Me trying to out do porn, to make him want me. Then. The confrontation about 6 months later. Then the hiding started. Then the lying started. No acknowledgement for what it was doing to him... just apparently what it was doing to me. Then a blow out after he was caught out. I had enough and said no more. Fuck off to put it nicely. He smashed his phone. We had no internet. No more conversation to be had as far as he was concerned. That was September 2015. He followed up with subs. Then had nothing. So. Fast forward to October 2016 he got an prepaid internet stick. 2 weeks later a new smart phone. Sex never recovered during the down phase much at all. He could climax. But due to his unwillingness to talk about it. It was still like a use to him. No connection. Just a doll. With no feelings. During this time I had my contraception removed to hopefully have a baby. Wellhere I am wondering what the actual fuck was I thinking. And fortunately no baby on the way as yet after 6 months of trying with lame arse sex maybe 2-4 a month. I just don't know I care enough anymore to keep going down this path. I just don't. In this time we have moved into a situation where should it need be. He has somewhere to go and I have somewhere to stay with my kids. Slef protection mechanism has never settled which allowed me to have this space. I don't even know what question I am asking of anyone here. With a man who will not communicate what more can I do I guess. I have no proof of history on his phone as privacy is important to him and he has a password. I have however found several soiled items of clothing in the wash. Fuck him. Sorry to come and rant. I am broken. I want for him to be a man I never knew as this problem came with him. He can keep it. He has kept up my mistrust of men just stepped it up a level to not trusting nice guys. Hello to all the new partners. Hello again to all the old ones I knew. Welcome back me to the hole I never dug but can't get out of unless I cut the cord. Oh someone tell me some good news. Please.