chickaboomski
Active Member
I think everyone needs a safe place to be able to express themselves. I know I have posted in here in times when I have been busting at the seams angry and hurt by this experience. I have had some helpful advice, understanding partners compassionate responses as well as some insightful advice from PA. I think what made this forum important to partners was a place to come and rant and get out our frustration with out taking it out the wrong way on our partners and not fueling the fire and or stunting recovery.
So that being said I think when we reply we need to bare in mind the ripple effect of addiction on the partners mental health. All addictions effect those in close proximity of the addict. Porn and sex addiction tends to attack our mental health because no matter how much we understand the underlying dopamine addiction, it attacks our self esteem, confidence and our own safe place of who we thought we were in our own heads.
I took leave from this site when the going was good for over 9 months because I needed to let it go in order to move forward with my partner. But here I am returning to my safe space to read and learn from others and help myself not feel so alone in this battle. Play nice guys. We are all hurting here. Both partners and PAs.
Porn attacks a mans manhood. Porn attacks a womans womanhood. Everyone loses. For those here, we are all here making an effort to fight this battle, so we need to give a little respect to the fact while so many things are the same, with each and every case, so many things are different. This is a world wide problem, so many of us are from all over the world. That alone brings culture and other diverse aspects to each case. Play nice people.
So that being said I think when we reply we need to bare in mind the ripple effect of addiction on the partners mental health. All addictions effect those in close proximity of the addict. Porn and sex addiction tends to attack our mental health because no matter how much we understand the underlying dopamine addiction, it attacks our self esteem, confidence and our own safe place of who we thought we were in our own heads.
I took leave from this site when the going was good for over 9 months because I needed to let it go in order to move forward with my partner. But here I am returning to my safe space to read and learn from others and help myself not feel so alone in this battle. Play nice guys. We are all hurting here. Both partners and PAs.
Porn attacks a mans manhood. Porn attacks a womans womanhood. Everyone loses. For those here, we are all here making an effort to fight this battle, so we need to give a little respect to the fact while so many things are the same, with each and every case, so many things are different. This is a world wide problem, so many of us are from all over the world. That alone brings culture and other diverse aspects to each case. Play nice people.