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jjcrebootingjjc

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Trying to reboot for the first time.  I have been struggling with porn addiction for at least ten years.  I am 43.  It has been something that has grown overtime and slowly consumed my life.  I suffer from ED and have not have had a steady woman in my life for years.  I have pushed them out of my life due to my embarrassment/humiliation of my ED problems.  I am here in an attempt to reboot and break this cycle that has led me into a life I despise, one of loniliness, shame, embarrassment.  Any words of support or encouragement will go a long way.  I have been "clean" for 7 days, and have only watched porn once in the last fourteen days.  For me that is a big deal.  I have already begun to feel more confident and productive and find myself doing more positive things.  I am not oblivious t the challenges that stand before me as I reboot.  I could use your help.

Thank you
 
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OSS

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The benefits will only continue to grow, the less sexual arousal you have the faster you will require. You MAY need to rewire but given your age I doubt it will requiring much rewiring (rewiring is spending time with real women to reteach your brain real women are a source of arousal)
 
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tom46017

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Hang in there.  Go to You Tube and search Sean Stewart.  He has a lot of videos that have really helped me.  I am pretty new at this as well . . . just three weeks.  Watched porn for about 10 minutes one time during the three weeks.

You will feel much better about yourself and have a great deal more self confidence when you find you can control your desires rather than letting porn control you.

I meditate.  I think of positive words.  I think of the word being at the base of my brain in the back of my neck.  I force the word into my brain.  I think about the word swirling around in the center of my brain and then exploding out of my ears.  I try to do this for about 15 minutes each day.  I also do it during the day when I am just sitting at work or in my car . . . just don't close your eyes when driving!!

Words like power, control, confident, love, forgive, honest, true, happy, smile, peace, overcome, humble, willing, and on and on.  Whatever works for you.

When I feel a sex drive, which in my case seems like it is every ten seconds, I do the same brain exercise but use the work "block".  It makes the brain change course and stops the sex drive for a while.

I am looking for an accountability partner.  We may be a fit.  E-mail me if you want at [email protected]
 
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