fapfreezone
Active Member
At first, I just tried quitting PMO. I wondered if allowing myself to view P now and again might ease cravings. Actually, it was a trigger to relapse. Since I had rarely PMOed to P subs, I considered they were safe and continued to watch, thinking it might allow me an outlet for my cravings. Actually, I escalated and relapsed. Now, I am against PMO, P and P subs, but I still haven't gotten over P subs that appear accidentally on TV. I find that if I watch any TV with P subs in it, I enjoy it and this breaks down the thoughts in my head that P subs are unacceptable and I either escalate or become aroused and MO (bear in mind I have often been abstinent from all things arousing for a few days when I see these things). Therefore, I think the next step is to dislike P subs on TV so that I don't want to watch it and therefore stay abstinent from watching P subs online because I maintain my belief that it's bad.
In other words, i'm saying that if I accept a glimpse of P subs from TV, it's hard to like that but also dislike P subs enough to not watch it because if I think any kind of P is ok, then i'll kind've wish I could watch P subs, which leads to actually watching P subs. In "The Porn Trap", they call this being ambivalent - having conflicting feelings about P means you're more likely to relapse. I therefore want to get rid of my desire to see glimpses of womens' bodies on TV. I think that there are people out there who don't like the gratuitous sexual nature of much of modern TV and I think that that mindset would help me with my reboot. So, below, I've listed some arguments of mine and I would appreciate additional arguments from anyone with another perspective.
So, what are some common reasons for disliking P subs on TV?
? It?s cheap/tacky
? It?s gratuitous/just titillation
? It?s puerile
? She?s only on screen
? It leads to escalation
What do they mean by ?it?s cheap?? They mean that it?s dirty and sleazy to be showing women?s bodies on screen for the titillation of men who don?t know them, like stripping for a stranger is cheap.
What do they mean by it?s gratuitous? Well, it means that it appeals to our baser, more animal instincts and is an empty sexual kick. It?s a bit like street drugs ? reward with no context, meaning or achievement. The difference is that it?s a legal activity with unlimited super easy 24/7 availability.
It?s puerile because it?s every 15 year old boy?s dream ? a naked woman right in front of him. However, older, more mature, married men don?t engage in such behaviours if they are sensible. Partly because there are more important things to do in life, so it drops down the priority list as you get older.
She?s only on screen means it?s not real. There isn?t actually a naked woman in front of you, she?s just on screen. Your brain likes it because your brain is antiquated and can?t discern that she?s only on screen. There is no real sexual opportunity, only a fake one.
Obv it leads to escalation and PMO or MO or watching harder stuff.
What reasons do you have for disliking P subs on TV?
EDIT: corrected last line
In other words, i'm saying that if I accept a glimpse of P subs from TV, it's hard to like that but also dislike P subs enough to not watch it because if I think any kind of P is ok, then i'll kind've wish I could watch P subs, which leads to actually watching P subs. In "The Porn Trap", they call this being ambivalent - having conflicting feelings about P means you're more likely to relapse. I therefore want to get rid of my desire to see glimpses of womens' bodies on TV. I think that there are people out there who don't like the gratuitous sexual nature of much of modern TV and I think that that mindset would help me with my reboot. So, below, I've listed some arguments of mine and I would appreciate additional arguments from anyone with another perspective.
So, what are some common reasons for disliking P subs on TV?
? It?s cheap/tacky
? It?s gratuitous/just titillation
? It?s puerile
? She?s only on screen
? It leads to escalation
What do they mean by ?it?s cheap?? They mean that it?s dirty and sleazy to be showing women?s bodies on screen for the titillation of men who don?t know them, like stripping for a stranger is cheap.
What do they mean by it?s gratuitous? Well, it means that it appeals to our baser, more animal instincts and is an empty sexual kick. It?s a bit like street drugs ? reward with no context, meaning or achievement. The difference is that it?s a legal activity with unlimited super easy 24/7 availability.
It?s puerile because it?s every 15 year old boy?s dream ? a naked woman right in front of him. However, older, more mature, married men don?t engage in such behaviours if they are sensible. Partly because there are more important things to do in life, so it drops down the priority list as you get older.
She?s only on screen means it?s not real. There isn?t actually a naked woman in front of you, she?s just on screen. Your brain likes it because your brain is antiquated and can?t discern that she?s only on screen. There is no real sexual opportunity, only a fake one.
Obv it leads to escalation and PMO or MO or watching harder stuff.
What reasons do you have for disliking P subs on TV?
EDIT: corrected last line