Dealing with a relapse and triggers
- Thread starter Dimo77
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You have to really want it.
Internet porn is an addiction. That means there will be withdrawal symptoms when you stop using.
The withdrawal symptoms can be really uncomfortable. In my case, I got restless leg syndrome that lasted for months while I was rebooting.
The temptation to relapse will be strong. So I come back to my first point:
You have to really want it.
For me, watching everything I could on yourbrainonporn.com helped me to really want it. Then, it wasn't so hard for me to not relapse. Whenever the urge would arise, I would yell a huge loud "NNNNOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO" in my head, and that was that.
It all comes down to making the commitment to never look at porn again. Once you have really made that commitment firmly, then it's easy. That's my best advice.
Internet porn is an addiction. That means there will be withdrawal symptoms when you stop using.
The withdrawal symptoms can be really uncomfortable. In my case, I got restless leg syndrome that lasted for months while I was rebooting.
The temptation to relapse will be strong. So I come back to my first point:
You have to really want it.
For me, watching everything I could on yourbrainonporn.com helped me to really want it. Then, it wasn't so hard for me to not relapse. Whenever the urge would arise, I would yell a huge loud "NNNNOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO" in my head, and that was that.
It all comes down to making the commitment to never look at porn again. Once you have really made that commitment firmly, then it's easy. That's my best advice.
Find an activity to do in your free time, and start exercising if you are not to relieve stress. Also, when you are starting to fantasize or whatever, do deep breathing wig five seconds on, five second hold, and five second exhale. Also, if you have the urge to PMO or MO think about that in the sense of "I have a boner because I want to masturbat, NOT because I want sex" and just think about how demented that is
Vincent
Active Member
Hi there,
After I relapsed the 2nd time i deleted my Smartphone Browser - you don't really need it because there are apps for everything with internet connectivity.
I relayed IE on my PC to an unknown Domain. I controll my Internet flow via open DNS, which blocks pornsites for the entire Internet access on your pc. I use two different porn blocker on Firefox. One of them is able to blacklist, so I blacklisted all search engines except Google. I activated Save search on google.
My last stronghold is, that I do not change settings I once changed. I only try to circumvent them. If I am not able to - like 5 minutes ago I was on the brink of doing it again - i just leave it be. I took away all my chances leaving me the choice to betray myself or to invest time. both issues are to precious to me to break this rule.
I can only recommend this. In the end you will have to create a willpower that is stronger than that because eventually you will want to be free. But in the meantime it is the best thing to prevent yourself from everything and to slowly build that strong will until prevention is no longer needed.
keep it up.
Vince
After I relapsed the 2nd time i deleted my Smartphone Browser - you don't really need it because there are apps for everything with internet connectivity.
I relayed IE on my PC to an unknown Domain. I controll my Internet flow via open DNS, which blocks pornsites for the entire Internet access on your pc. I use two different porn blocker on Firefox. One of them is able to blacklist, so I blacklisted all search engines except Google. I activated Save search on google.
My last stronghold is, that I do not change settings I once changed. I only try to circumvent them. If I am not able to - like 5 minutes ago I was on the brink of doing it again - i just leave it be. I took away all my chances leaving me the choice to betray myself or to invest time. both issues are to precious to me to break this rule.
I can only recommend this. In the end you will have to create a willpower that is stronger than that because eventually you will want to be free. But in the meantime it is the best thing to prevent yourself from everything and to slowly build that strong will until prevention is no longer needed.
keep it up.
Vince
Thank you Vincent!
Unfortunately I have had a binge and relapsed again today.
I have now installed a porn blocker on my browsers just as you recommended.
I knew there was going to be a relapse but not as many as I thought it would be, and for me personally, today I have realised how serious this addiction of mine and everyone on this forum is.
Thank you and good luck to you to mate!!
Unfortunately I have had a binge and relapsed again today.
I have now installed a porn blocker on my browsers just as you recommended.
I knew there was going to be a relapse but not as many as I thought it would be, and for me personally, today I have realised how serious this addiction of mine and everyone on this forum is.
Thank you and good luck to you to mate!!
Vincent
Active Member
Hey Dimo,
sorry to hear that. But you already learnt from your relapse, so it was a lesson. Don't feel to bad about it, because it is part of your recovery. You will get stronger over time and gain control over your addiction.
The most important thin here is, that you never give up and keep on thinking about you making it possible!
keep it up
sorry to hear that. But you already learnt from your relapse, so it was a lesson. Don't feel to bad about it, because it is part of your recovery. You will get stronger over time and gain control over your addiction.
The most important thin here is, that you never give up and keep on thinking about you making it possible!
keep it up