Aging and sex

[Bibbity]

An interesting article.  It might shed some light on how porn can warp mens minds when it comes to the female body and sexuality.  It doesn't specifically mention porn but we all know it can't be helping the situation.  As women we need to embrace our beauty and be proud of our bodies no matter what.  I for one do not value myself on whether or not I am "fuckable".

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/robin-korth/sex-over-50_b_5563576.html

 

[Viper]

I've known about this article.
I feel bad for the author that's it's come down to that.
The guy in the article was insensitive and he didn't deserve her.

But this is the part that will sting a little.
A lot of men do think like this guy given the exact same
circumstances. But unlike this jackass, they would just keep it to themselves
and find a softer way to exit the relationship.

Do I think that women in an advanced age are doomed
if they are suddenly single?
NO.
There is someone out there for everyone regardless of age.
The author came across a dickhead to date but didn't know it until it was to late.

But you see, us men have to deal with certain realities as well
when it comes to the dating scene. This shallow behavior by
the guy in the article is no different than a woman not wanting
to have sex with a guy because he didn't make as much $$$
as she thought. Or his dick was to small or any number of
reasons that you find mortifying.
Especially when he asks what's wrong only for her to tell
him the painful truth.
Best just to say that you don't think it's going to work out
and move on.

I wouldn't want you (or any woman) to be looked as merely someone who has nut
busting potential, but I'm here to report that those type of guys are out there
in numbers.

 

[SO Reboot Partner]

"Your body is too wrinkly," he said without a pause. "I have spoiled myself over the years with young women. I just can't get excited with you. I love your energy and your laughter. I like your head and your heart. But, I just can't deal with your body."

He spoke of special stockings and clothing that would "hide" my years. He blithely told me he loved "little black dresses" and strappy shoes. He said my hair was not long and flowing as he preferred, but that was okay because it was "cool looking."

LOL. What a helpful guy. The Womynz must be all over that. LOL.

 

[Gracie]

Like I have said, our culture and media have successfully taught us that all women should be a 19 year old "10" no matter what their age is and it has taught all men no matter what they look like or act like that they are entitled their whole life to a 19 year old "10". 

I was talking to a girl (21) and she said women should be able to wear what ever they want.  I responded with are they choosing to wear or has society and culture taught them to wear the clothes that you are speaking about?  She sat and thought and responded with an "Oh no!"

 

[Viper]

Like I have said, our culture and media have successfully taught us that all women should be a 19 year old "10" no matter what their age is and it has taught all men no matter what they look like or act like that they are entitled their whole life to a 19 year old "10". 

I was talking to a girl (21) and she said women should be able to wear what ever they want.  I responded with are they choosing to wear or has society and culture taught them to wear the clothes that you are speaking about?  She sat and thought and responded with an "Oh no!"

That's a harsh reality.

 

[Bibbity]

Thank you for your honesty Viper!  I certainly agree.

My intent of posting this article was not to demonize the man per se (although he is an asshat) it was to show this womans perfect reaction to him.  He is the sick one, not her.  Too many women blame themselves for twisted mentalities about sex.  I am sorry but when you love somebody you overlook those things because sex is about intimacy and love, not measurements and visual olympics.  I am convinced that men are much more brainwashed away from love than women are and I think it's because of porn.  The one thing porn does not show is love and intimacy.  It shows you exactly how to use somebody who doesn't know any better.

 

[OldHornyGuy]

You have hit the nail on the head, Bibbity! 

Dave in that story is a stand in for all of us insanely stupid men.  It has taken me a long time to realize this in myself.  Dave is all about clothes, make-up and hair style.  Maybe he should just get it on with a curling iron!

Within certain limits (say poor hygiene -- showering is still a good thing!) what does appearance have to do with performance in anything?  We men must completely insane to think that a naive 19 year old girl can do more for us than a 50 year old woman with 30 years of experience pleasing men.  Totally crazy.  To put it bluntly, even when we are with a partner, most men are just masturbating.  Your pretty face and smooth skin get me off.  We would almost be better off alone with porn!  Surely Dave and every guy like him would.

Hopefully this is not TMI, but my SO combines enthusiasm with imagination in a way I would have never thought possible.  She makes me feel good in ways that are completely unique and wonderful.  And when play time is over, I marvel at her skills and commitment to her job, community projects and so on.  I am just so proud of her, I could burst. 

And I will say, her appearance does not match any of my former porn "ideals."  And once in a while my lizard brain reminds me of this.  But I now tell my lizard brain to STFU, because she is amazing in every way that really matters.

But don't blame all of us men, even normally sexist punk bands get it very right sometimes!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6AeWZ6RrM5s

Peace.

 

[rider654321]

Well as a guy who's married to a lady who's 5 years older than I am. That guys a jerk