Sexual frustratiom

[Arctichowler]

so im a couple days into not fapping, im at the gym today and i notice a very attractive guy (im gay), of course im interested but for a couple minutes i feel very sexually frustrated and had the urge to fap. Anyone else feel like this. I think its different than just being aroused, its an annoying feeling

 

[lfelipe]

is just your brain!! he was so used to porn that he doesn?t know what to do with other stimili yet!!! just give it time!! that happens to me too i work at a gym!! i am a gym instructor i see beautiful girls all the time and on my early days rebooting i felt weird too but later my brain got better and my attraction to them got back!!!

 

[TelekineticOwl]

so im a couple days into not fapping, im at the gym today and i notice a very attractive guy (im gay), of course im interested but for a couple minutes i feel very sexually frustrated and had the urge to fap. Anyone else feel like this. I think its different than just being aroused, its an annoying feeling

Yeah, I totally know what you mean, man. It's something I spent a few hours reading and writing about today.

Basically, what I have so far, is that it IS different. Arousal happens in situations that call for it. But that compulsion to immediately NEED to fap when you get new "human fap material" is more about your relationship with other guys.

In my case, that's girls, and for me, I realized that I get to jumpy about sex and I need to learn to take the time to appreciate the person's beauty. Like a piece of art almost!

This podcast is only 20 minutes and while it may not talk about fapping in general... it does explore our relationship with people's looks and something you'll notice right off the bat: a)it gets easier with time to distinguish the two situations b) it takes discipline.

Slow progress is progress.

http://thematinggrounds.com/the-mating-grounds-podcast-episode-21-qa-how-can-i-not-act-nervous-around-a-hot-girl/

TL;DR You and I have to learn to appreciate that people are more than just sex objects and the good lucks are nice for their own sake. Take the time to just admire people instead of wandering about how'd they'd be like during intercourse.

 

[le_petit_moster]

so im a couple days into not fapping, im at the gym today and i notice a very attractive guy (im gay), of course im interested but for a couple minutes i feel very sexually frustrated and had the urge to fap. Anyone else feel like this. I think its different than just being aroused, its an annoying feeling

A couple of days, you are starving the little monster ( abstaining).
But your big monster ( your illusions) are alive and well.
You should feel elated and happy and at the first thought ( its only a thought) of PMO you should self-talk " yippee, I am not a slave no more. I don't have to PMO. I am free".
You would then have either approached the guy or have postponed the pursuit.
You would never feel miserable and deprived.

Hey, I've written a hackbook which does NOT use the willpower method.
Take a look !!! I guarantee results.

Becoming Non-PMOer is easy if you know the combo numbers to the lock. I have a method for you if you are interested. There is no obligation and it does not use your Willpower ( as I find it ineffective and destructive). https://sites.google.com/site/hackbookeasypeasy/home
The only requirement is to follow the chapters one by one and not jump between them. The book  ( a hackbook based on a famous method) is written in a certain order and hence you will need to follow the right sequence- though you are given all the numbers to the combo lock. Wish you well.