Lauralou82
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Hi, I'm 34 and have been living with my partner (32) for about 14 months. I noticed his ED and lack of morning erections pretty quickly... I was so worried about his health - he had me thinking it was performance, sleep apnea, abusive ex's but I eventually showed him an article about "death grip" his reaction was not good. On my birthday he lay in bed sleeping and "ill" all day - the day was pretty much half way over before he even wished me happy birthday. I waited all day for a kiss that never came. As soon as I went downstairs he masturbated - literally as soon as I left the room. It's not the first time he's done this. Two days ago I eventually found porn on his phone. He's very good at clearing out evidence. He has agreed to reboot and I told him I need to put a 3 month time frame and if there's no improvement we will have to separate.... I'm absolutely heartbroken. He's laying with his back to me now and I have a physical pain in my chest.
I live with CPTSD and I'm really struggling. I had two anxiety attacks two days in a row after only having had a handful in about five years! I know this is hard and embarrassing for him but I really need some support.... My self esteem is none existant... I look at myself in the mirror and somethimes just burst into tears. I feel so lonely.... I've never been rejected sexually before.
Later that night that I found the porn I climbed atop him and tried to "fuck" him like I thought he wanted and he seemed to be enjoying it - then I realized I felt no love there and had to stop.... I felt disgusting!
I don't know how I'm going to cope with the coming months - what if he doesn't love me enough to reboot? I'm so scared
I live with CPTSD and I'm really struggling. I had two anxiety attacks two days in a row after only having had a handful in about five years! I know this is hard and embarrassing for him but I really need some support.... My self esteem is none existant... I look at myself in the mirror and somethimes just burst into tears. I feel so lonely.... I've never been rejected sexually before.
Later that night that I found the porn I climbed atop him and tried to "fuck" him like I thought he wanted and he seemed to be enjoying it - then I realized I felt no love there and had to stop.... I felt disgusting!
I don't know how I'm going to cope with the coming months - what if he doesn't love me enough to reboot? I'm so scared