about 2 months ago it would be practically impossible for me to get an erection only with the touch of my hand and imagination without porn and when i had real sex it took me forever to ejaculate i was only able to ejaculate because the girl gave me an oral sex!! but yesterday i did a test in the shower and it worked perfectly, i was touching it softly and bang!! full erection!! i?m on reboot for about 40 days now relapsed 3 times but i feel im getting better, so my question is: it is possible that my ED is more related to the death grip than to porn itself? i know i have a problem but it seems that is not as serious as some people. what do you guys think?
Death grip may be the problem!!
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offaxis
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I think all us addicts find it very easy to focus on the small things and sexual things because that's what we know. Really these things don't actually matter as much in life as our brains tell us. They are important but just part of life. So focussing on whether some thing or not is related to some detail of where you are is not really that important in the grand scheme of things.
What is more important is what you are doing to change your life around and make things different. The rest is just symptoms. Concentrate on getting well above all
It's great if you think your problems are not as serious as other people. That means you can get more of your life back earlier. That's a very good thing. Don't make the mistake of thinking it means you're not addicted or you have less of an addiction problem than others because that can then be used to rationalise going back to using.
Peace.
What is more important is what you are doing to change your life around and make things different. The rest is just symptoms. Concentrate on getting well above all
It's great if you think your problems are not as serious as other people. That means you can get more of your life back earlier. That's a very good thing. Don't make the mistake of thinking it means you're not addicted or you have less of an addiction problem than others because that can then be used to rationalise going back to using.
Peace.
don?t get me wrong i know it?s a problem, what i?m trying to say is that like any other addiction our willpower is the key and if we find that willpower and focus all our will on what makes that willpower steel strong there is no porn that will make you relapse again and the rest like you said are only symptoms and what once was a huge 7 headed dragon monster becomes a tiny little Gecko!!!! we can do it!!
offaxis
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Good luck man.
I'm personally not sure that willpower alone is enough. It is necessary but not sufficient because there will always come times where willpower breaks down or is tested.
I think it's more seeing it for what it is. A dopamine addiction based on looking at sexual images and thoughts. Something that stops you living your life in full or you need to cling to. I often try to keep reminding myself what I would think of someone else doing this and have empathy. This helps me see the reality better and that recovery is not something to be afraid of - it is not a deprivation but an awakening.
I'm personally not sure that willpower alone is enough. It is necessary but not sufficient because there will always come times where willpower breaks down or is tested.
I think it's more seeing it for what it is. A dopamine addiction based on looking at sexual images and thoughts. Something that stops you living your life in full or you need to cling to. I often try to keep reminding myself what I would think of someone else doing this and have empathy. This helps me see the reality better and that recovery is not something to be afraid of - it is not a deprivation but an awakening.