Survivor here.
I haven't posted for a few days as I haven't felt a need. However, the need is here now.
I've been clean for ten days and will remain so today. The issue is that my original euphoria around being sober is starting to dissipate and I'm starting to have trouble sleeping, which makes me cranky, lacking in motivation and energy and with a sense of "Who cares and what does it matter anyway!" In my previous program we used to refer to this outlook as a case of the 'F--kits'. I'm also getting more triggered by attractive women I see and am starting to spend far too much time staring at them.
With the staring issue comes a deep sense of loss - "I'll never be able to be promiscuously sexual, even though it's fantasy sex, again."
I know I have to grieve this. This addiction has been my constant companion for more than fifty years and it's always been there to provide me comfort whenever I've been down.
That being said I know this place I'm in right now is only temporary. Additionally, I cherish the honesty I have with my wife - I have no secrets from her anymore. In spite of this temporary place I find myself in at the moment I am also much more motivated, energized and positive than I was prior to starting in this program. I need to remember the benefits, focus on the benefits and strive to maintain the benefits. It can only get better as time goes on. The lack of porn is only a negative if I choose to see it that way.
I think that's it for the moment. More to follow later.
Ciao all.
I haven't posted for a few days as I haven't felt a need. However, the need is here now.
I've been clean for ten days and will remain so today. The issue is that my original euphoria around being sober is starting to dissipate and I'm starting to have trouble sleeping, which makes me cranky, lacking in motivation and energy and with a sense of "Who cares and what does it matter anyway!" In my previous program we used to refer to this outlook as a case of the 'F--kits'. I'm also getting more triggered by attractive women I see and am starting to spend far too much time staring at them.
With the staring issue comes a deep sense of loss - "I'll never be able to be promiscuously sexual, even though it's fantasy sex, again."
I know I have to grieve this. This addiction has been my constant companion for more than fifty years and it's always been there to provide me comfort whenever I've been down.
That being said I know this place I'm in right now is only temporary. Additionally, I cherish the honesty I have with my wife - I have no secrets from her anymore. In spite of this temporary place I find myself in at the moment I am also much more motivated, energized and positive than I was prior to starting in this program. I need to remember the benefits, focus on the benefits and strive to maintain the benefits. It can only get better as time goes on. The lack of porn is only a negative if I choose to see it that way.
I think that's it for the moment. More to follow later.
Ciao all.