Lauralou82
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So on top of my idiot other half not yet being able to see he's not only wired himself up to have a separate sex life all on his own. I now have to deal with the "it's not cheating" hurdle!
"Every guy does it so are they all cheating" rem well not every guy replaces their partner with it, it doesn't effect their sex life with their partner and if given a choice they'd choose their partner every time no question! THAT IS NOT WHAT IM DEALING WITH THOUGH IS IT!
He can't yet see that he's trained his thoughts in a lot of ways to be pretty much comparable to a psychopath when it comes to me. Of course he doesn't want to consider me - or he'd have had to a knowledge what he was doing is wrong and that's ate into all sorts of areas..... Right down to something as simple as taking the full pack of cigarettes without a thought of leaving one in case I fancied one. Is he concerned I haven't had my hair trimmed in over six months - is he he'll!
I woke up upset this morning and he'd cuddled into me from behind before he noticed. He couldn't get away from me fast enough! All I needed to do was have a cry and fall back asleep again (in sure you know what I mean) but he kept prodding and poking me verbally and acts as if I have no right to be upset that he replaced me with pixels! That was my place! Somewhere in his head and heart, the place where his sexual urges and need for connection come from that was supposed to be reserved just for me!
And now I'm being told I'm weird for seeing it as cheating! He's conditioned himself to negate me so deeply that all he cares about in this situation is what I might say to other people or how he could appear...... Surely he should be able to see that if he hadn't done anything wrong then he wouldn't even have to deal with that worry - even his own mind is telling him what he's done!
If he reboots like he has said he will he's going to be mortified when he can see the extent of the effect this has had on his behaviour towards me and also how it has stunted him.
I can see the trains coming and it's going to ve a wreck!
Either that or hes going to take the easy option and run away and take all this craps into another relationship - the sad thing is that even if that was the case I'd still want him to address this and get better... It's spoiling and wasting his life! The idiot can't even recognize he is loved!
Aaarrrrgggghhhh!
"Every guy does it so are they all cheating" rem well not every guy replaces their partner with it, it doesn't effect their sex life with their partner and if given a choice they'd choose their partner every time no question! THAT IS NOT WHAT IM DEALING WITH THOUGH IS IT!
He can't yet see that he's trained his thoughts in a lot of ways to be pretty much comparable to a psychopath when it comes to me. Of course he doesn't want to consider me - or he'd have had to a knowledge what he was doing is wrong and that's ate into all sorts of areas..... Right down to something as simple as taking the full pack of cigarettes without a thought of leaving one in case I fancied one. Is he concerned I haven't had my hair trimmed in over six months - is he he'll!
I woke up upset this morning and he'd cuddled into me from behind before he noticed. He couldn't get away from me fast enough! All I needed to do was have a cry and fall back asleep again (in sure you know what I mean) but he kept prodding and poking me verbally and acts as if I have no right to be upset that he replaced me with pixels! That was my place! Somewhere in his head and heart, the place where his sexual urges and need for connection come from that was supposed to be reserved just for me!
And now I'm being told I'm weird for seeing it as cheating! He's conditioned himself to negate me so deeply that all he cares about in this situation is what I might say to other people or how he could appear...... Surely he should be able to see that if he hadn't done anything wrong then he wouldn't even have to deal with that worry - even his own mind is telling him what he's done!
If he reboots like he has said he will he's going to be mortified when he can see the extent of the effect this has had on his behaviour towards me and also how it has stunted him.
I can see the trains coming and it's going to ve a wreck!
Either that or hes going to take the easy option and run away and take all this craps into another relationship - the sad thing is that even if that was the case I'd still want him to address this and get better... It's spoiling and wasting his life! The idiot can't even recognize he is loved!
Aaarrrrgggghhhh!