AnonymousAnnaXO
Active Member
I am really kicking myself for my trauma reactions and triggers. I got triggered yesterday and that caused an argument between my partner and I, we then made up.
Today, we went out with a friend since it was his bday and he knows about our situation and is really nice and understanding. So we were talking about the friends ex gf who cheated on him, and he suspected she was a sex addict, and my partner was saying that she didn't deserve another chance and stuff and I got really upset because I gave my partner 8 chances so it was really hypercritical. I said something mean back to him. Then we were at odds a bit. I apologized. He also did some passive aggressive things because he was angry about something I mentioned from my past which hurt me. It's been a crap night. Then we get back to our place with the friend and then they mention a movie that I know has things in the movie that are triggering to me, and then I looked up the movie on kids in mind and saw that in the movie there was porn stuff in it and now I am in the room with my partner and his friend and trying to not cry and break down from triggers, and I feel so overwhelmed, and stupid, and crappy. I just hate that I get triggered so easily. I feel so guilty and pathetic at times. I just am having the worst night... I feel so insecure and uncomfortable and just like crap and worthless and stupid. I don't know if it's just the amount of triggers today, because I didn't even mention ones from earlier....
I am sure I'll feel better tomorrow, but every time I get triggered I really beat myself up for it, and I can't seem to stop. My partner when I get triggered, gets mad at me, and he has admitted he reacts that way because in reality he hates seeing me triggered because he knows he and his addiction is what made me this way, and so he admits to taking it out on me. And idk... I just feel pathetic and not worthy. At times, usually when triggered, I feel like it would be better if I just left to save us both the pain and I know how stupid that is overall, but I just hate the triggers and amount of times in a day I can get triggered...I also feel so alone when that happens and shameful, like I can't talk about it.
Today, we went out with a friend since it was his bday and he knows about our situation and is really nice and understanding. So we were talking about the friends ex gf who cheated on him, and he suspected she was a sex addict, and my partner was saying that she didn't deserve another chance and stuff and I got really upset because I gave my partner 8 chances so it was really hypercritical. I said something mean back to him. Then we were at odds a bit. I apologized. He also did some passive aggressive things because he was angry about something I mentioned from my past which hurt me. It's been a crap night. Then we get back to our place with the friend and then they mention a movie that I know has things in the movie that are triggering to me, and then I looked up the movie on kids in mind and saw that in the movie there was porn stuff in it and now I am in the room with my partner and his friend and trying to not cry and break down from triggers, and I feel so overwhelmed, and stupid, and crappy. I just hate that I get triggered so easily. I feel so guilty and pathetic at times. I just am having the worst night... I feel so insecure and uncomfortable and just like crap and worthless and stupid. I don't know if it's just the amount of triggers today, because I didn't even mention ones from earlier....
I am sure I'll feel better tomorrow, but every time I get triggered I really beat myself up for it, and I can't seem to stop. My partner when I get triggered, gets mad at me, and he has admitted he reacts that way because in reality he hates seeing me triggered because he knows he and his addiction is what made me this way, and so he admits to taking it out on me. And idk... I just feel pathetic and not worthy. At times, usually when triggered, I feel like it would be better if I just left to save us both the pain and I know how stupid that is overall, but I just hate the triggers and amount of times in a day I can get triggered...I also feel so alone when that happens and shameful, like I can't talk about it.