AnonymousAnnaXO
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I think I've mentioned somewhere on here before about how my partner can be obsessed with cars. We also thought at one point his porn addiction was turning into car addiction instead. For a while he got better, and now that we talked about it again, he realized that twice a week he gets strong urges to look at car parts. He admitted it was similar to a porn urge, and he said it was like in his head he just has to look up that part and find the price, and then he admits to finding the part and then just scrolling through other parts that he doesn't even need.
So my question is, does this mean he relapsed in a sense??? I am really confused about when one trades one addiction for another. My partner has been good with expressing emotion, being there, doing well at work , doing homework, so he has been recovering in all areas of his life....but does this car addiction mean that he lost progress? I told him to let me know when he gets those car urges and to think about what he was doing or feeling before he had that rush to look at cars.
He also admits to wanting to improve his car because he gets jealous and feels inadequate when he sees other people with nicer cars, so he said with his car addiction thing he says he is trying to be satisfied still in a way, like with porn....
I guess I am feeling quite confused, blind sided, and dismayed. I just don't know what this means for his recovery. I know his obsession with cars has had a negative impact on our relationship. Instead of being in a conversation with me, he is checking out the car outside the window! I mean at least he doesn't check out women, but he gives his attention to cars.... Cars. An inanimate object. We have had arguments about how he talks about cars too much, will check out of a conversation at times becuase he is distracted with cars outside the window. My therapist, who sees both of us from time to time when needed thinks he might have ADD.
So what does all this mean? Where do we go from here?
So my question is, does this mean he relapsed in a sense??? I am really confused about when one trades one addiction for another. My partner has been good with expressing emotion, being there, doing well at work , doing homework, so he has been recovering in all areas of his life....but does this car addiction mean that he lost progress? I told him to let me know when he gets those car urges and to think about what he was doing or feeling before he had that rush to look at cars.
He also admits to wanting to improve his car because he gets jealous and feels inadequate when he sees other people with nicer cars, so he said with his car addiction thing he says he is trying to be satisfied still in a way, like with porn....
I guess I am feeling quite confused, blind sided, and dismayed. I just don't know what this means for his recovery. I know his obsession with cars has had a negative impact on our relationship. Instead of being in a conversation with me, he is checking out the car outside the window! I mean at least he doesn't check out women, but he gives his attention to cars.... Cars. An inanimate object. We have had arguments about how he talks about cars too much, will check out of a conversation at times becuase he is distracted with cars outside the window. My therapist, who sees both of us from time to time when needed thinks he might have ADD.
So what does all this mean? Where do we go from here?