In need of some support

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aquarius25

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Are you a struggling porn addict or are you struggling with handling the emotions as the partner of a porn addict? No matter which side you are on there is a lot of support here on this site. This forum is for the partners of porn addicts. However porn addicts will post here and read too. I know a lot of them find it beneficial to get a different perspective and honestly it helps the partners to hear their perspective too. Also I would encourage you to start a journal. You can post there daily and other can offer support and encouragement. It has been very helpful for me in processing everything from my husband's pron addiction. He started one too and have received a lot of support as well. So no matter what side of this addiction you fall on this site has lot of support. I wish you the very best!
 
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Whynot

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I am the porn addict. Thanks for your reply. When you say "keep a journal"  does this mean to post something new every day in my category of what day I'm on ?
 
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aquarius25

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No if you look near the bottom of the forums there are journals. There are different categories for ages and one for women (that includes porn addicts that are women as this effects men and women alike). Anyway find the age category you fit in and you can start a journal jut like you started the topic here. You can go and post in your journal/ topic thread daily and others can also post support and offer help in there. It is basically a thread just for you. Not necessarily an open discussion but more a place for you to post how you are doing, what has been difficult/ improvements. Track your progress. Do remember that anyone on here can read it so keep that in  mind but you will find that people here (for the most part) are genuinely encouraging!

Here is a link to my journal
http://legacy.rebootnation.org/index.php?topic=9914.0

And my husband's journal
http://legacy.rebootnation.org/index.php?topic=9943.0

To give you an idea of what I am describing. Good luck, I am happy to offer support to you any way I can! 
 
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Whynot

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Thank you for your support.  My wife is aware of my porn addiction  and is also aware of the affair that I had,  I think the affair was due to my porn issues.  While your husband is going through the reboot I'm curious to know if you guys are sex free or do you have a little bit of sex?  I am only on day 11 of my reboot and at times I try to come onto my wife sexually and I get rejected and it doesn't help my reboot, just wondering maybe I should not do anything at all?
 
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chickaboomski

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I think your wife obviously her own healing to do from your situation and rightfully so. You guys, if you are going to stick it out have a lot to work through and if you really love her and want fix things you will do whatever it takes and be patient with her. She is broken. You did that. Don't say her not wanting to have sex doesn't help your reboot. Own your problem. Step up. Sorry if that is blunt.
 
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aquarius25

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I think you and your wife should talk about how the both of you feel and what the both of you are comfortable with. What does she want? You should also consider showing her this forum if she needs support and a place where she can talk openly about the things she is going through.

My husband experienced severe PIED as a result of over a decade of heavy porn use. So we would go thought phases. Sometimes we would have sex but other times I didn't want to or he couldn't get an erection even if we did want to. It was off and on. Just keep communicating and talking openly to each other. Check in and decided what is right your your marriage.
 
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malando

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These ladies offer excellent advice, Papa. They are in the position of understanding what your wife has been through and what she needs. Take careful note of what they say and it will take you far.
 
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