Hey guys,
I thought I'd write in an contribute/document my journey. I'm in my early 30s and have had what I now believe is PIED/DE for at least 10 years. It has progressively worsened over time.
I've been in a few long term relationships throughout my 20s and was usually able to have fairly normal "in relationship" sex. Out of the relationship (or some strayed moments), I've struggled. Performance anxiety coupled with a heavy dependence on porn has resulted in many embarrassing moments of ED. With my long term partners, DE has been a constant issue.
Before I found this site, I kinda knew that porn was wrecking my normal sex life, but relapsed repeatedly. Any time my partner was out, I was loading up the kinkiest porn I could find and getting my rocks off. In recent times, I've actually been doing it at work on my phone in the office bathrooms.
The catalyst was this: Recently, I had my hot office secretary proposition me for casual sex. It was an exhilarating proposition and I couldn't resist the idea of taboo office sex with my secretary. The catch was, I'd already masturbated that morning, and had masturbated twice the day before - all three to porn. Surprise surprise, no erection. I was pretty cool/calm about it - just told her today it wasn't going to work and sorted her out another way, but there was still some embarrassment/frustration.
A couple of days later she returned the favour, so to speak, but I still had moments of ED and DE which made it somewhat awkward.
Whenever I've shut porn off and stopped masturbating, ED/DE seem to improve drastically, although performance anxiety is still a constant battle with new girls.
I've even tried Viagra (50mg) recently which was relatively ineffective. It seemed to make some difference, but ultimately my arousal (even with my secretary) just wasn't enough - I was more excited to see new, wild porn.
I'm now committed to stopping the porn cycle and getting back to loving real sex. I'm motivated by the many success stories I've read on here. Moreover, it sounds like I can start getting some success in a pretty short period of time, which is exciting.
Looking forward to sharing what I experience with you guys.
I thought I'd write in an contribute/document my journey. I'm in my early 30s and have had what I now believe is PIED/DE for at least 10 years. It has progressively worsened over time.
I've been in a few long term relationships throughout my 20s and was usually able to have fairly normal "in relationship" sex. Out of the relationship (or some strayed moments), I've struggled. Performance anxiety coupled with a heavy dependence on porn has resulted in many embarrassing moments of ED. With my long term partners, DE has been a constant issue.
Before I found this site, I kinda knew that porn was wrecking my normal sex life, but relapsed repeatedly. Any time my partner was out, I was loading up the kinkiest porn I could find and getting my rocks off. In recent times, I've actually been doing it at work on my phone in the office bathrooms.
The catalyst was this: Recently, I had my hot office secretary proposition me for casual sex. It was an exhilarating proposition and I couldn't resist the idea of taboo office sex with my secretary. The catch was, I'd already masturbated that morning, and had masturbated twice the day before - all three to porn. Surprise surprise, no erection. I was pretty cool/calm about it - just told her today it wasn't going to work and sorted her out another way, but there was still some embarrassment/frustration.
A couple of days later she returned the favour, so to speak, but I still had moments of ED and DE which made it somewhat awkward.
Whenever I've shut porn off and stopped masturbating, ED/DE seem to improve drastically, although performance anxiety is still a constant battle with new girls.
I've even tried Viagra (50mg) recently which was relatively ineffective. It seemed to make some difference, but ultimately my arousal (even with my secretary) just wasn't enough - I was more excited to see new, wild porn.
I'm now committed to stopping the porn cycle and getting back to loving real sex. I'm motivated by the many success stories I've read on here. Moreover, it sounds like I can start getting some success in a pretty short period of time, which is exciting.
Looking forward to sharing what I experience with you guys.