No sex drive after 2 years rebooting

raylangivens

raylangivens

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Hi guys, I guess that many people from this forum went thru a similar situation as mine, so if you can give me tips to solve this situation I would be glad.

It has been 2 years I've been rebooting and my PIED almost went away. No fapping, and orgasm only during sex. Last year I had sex with 17 girls and, at least once each of them, I did not have to masturbate to get erection. Just 20-30% of the times I go have sex I need to masturbate to get erection.

The thing is that I hardly ever get I sex drive when I am alone. I am making a test: there is 1 month I don't even kiss a girl, and I don't feel the NEED to have sex or masturbate. I am only 21 so that is very weird. 5 years ago, if stayed 3 days with no masturbation or sex I would go crazy, really. How did you guys made for your normal libido, the one you had before PIED come back again, the same way it was?

I feel like it is good to eat foods but is not a big problem stay 6 months with no food... that's a comparison, but I hope you understand what I mean.
 
raylangivens

raylangivens

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Just some words that I forgot to say that could be important: Last year, while I had sex with some of these girls, it was not only vanilla PIV sex. I made also things like Anal sex, analingus, BJ, fisting, some of the girls were MILFs (50, 40 years old), ex girlfriends, etc.
 
Death Trap

Death Trap

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I'm having a lot of difficulty understanding what you are saying, since I assume English is your second language (which is cool, since your English is better than any of my foreign languages). But I guess I don't really see the problem here. If you're able to get aroused and excited when you're with chicks, what difference does it make if you can't when you are alone? Why do you want to be aroused when you are alone?

 
pearland71

pearland71

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You sound functional for the most part......Are you just concerned about your libido? I'm suffering from the same........I can function just don't care either way. No drive.
 
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misc person 86

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I find this more encouraging than a lot of the stories in the success section funnily enough. So, cheers. About the libido though, umm you may to elaborate. You mean, you're not feeling energy in general? You must have attraction to women hence your sex, so what are the other symptoms which make you question libido?
 
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shattered

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In my experience, I've never had libido alone after my teenage years.  I have been surprised if I'm staying in a hotel room with my wife and we sleep in the same bed that I all the sudden gain a libido.

This may be normal.

 
raylangivens

raylangivens

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Death Trap said:
I'm having a lot of difficulty understanding what you are saying, since I assume English is your second language (which is cool, since your English is better than any of my foreign languages). But I guess I don't really see the problem here. If you're able to get aroused and excited when you're with chicks, what difference does it make if you can't when you are alone? Why do you want to be aroused when you are alone?
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Simply because when I am not with a girl I do not feel "alive". I compare before I had PIED, Coincidentally I had I girlfriend when I was 15 or 16 years old and I could never be more then 3 days without having sex with her or masturbating myself alone. Does not matter if I was with her or not.
 
raylangivens

raylangivens

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I understand whay you guys are saying, maybe I won't have the same libido as I was when I was a teen. HOWEVER what I feel right now is like a man that don't get hungry. He can work 10 days in row without eating. But, if he enters in the kitchen and see a hamb?rguer he gets hungry and want to eat. But before that moment, he does not care about any food, there is no difference. If he does not see, no problem.


And if you stay weeks without food and you DON'T GET HUNGRY, something is wrong in your body. The same is the miss of sex drive after 30 days without ejaculation.
 
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misc person 86

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Umm. Yes, after 5/6 days without sex i really start thinking about it to be honest. Sometimes I'm really frustrated about it, other times i think about it, other times i don't. Don't think it's too much of an issue as long as you can perform when it's required. Another guy once said libido is the gentle hum that gels men and women and doesn't necessarily mean your walking round with a stonker. I think as we grow older you learn to deal with your desires a bit more subconsciously. Who knows, I've not had a sex drive for 15 years so only just discovered mine. But yes I'd agree I'm not thinking about sex/women as much as i was when i first became sexually active. If it's a serious concern go see a doc and get tests.
 
raylangivens

raylangivens

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andyjee86 said:
Umm. Yes, after 5/6 days without sex i really start thinking about it to be honest. Sometimes I'm really frustrated about it, other times i think about it, other times i don't. Don't think it's too much of an issue as long as you can perform when it's required. Another guy once said libido is the gentle hum that gels men and women and doesn't necessarily mean your walking round with a stonker. I think as we grow older you learn to deal with your desires a bit more subconsciously. Who knows, I've not had a sex drive for 15 years so only just discovered mine. But yes I'd agree I'm not thinking about sex/women as much as i was when i first became sexually active. If it's a serious concern go see a doc and get tests.
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I don't think that there is a test for it, likely the doctor would tell me to go to a Psychology clinic (the same thing that happened when I had PIED and I did not knew about the website, the reason of my issue). From now I will stop Imaginating sex in my mind and when I have sex I will make it be only normal PIV. Guess that's what I need to be 100% healed. In 6 months I come back to this topic and tell the results. Thank you guys.

If anyone else whats to share an information about it, is more than welcome.
 
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Red Bear

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raylangivens said:
From now I will stop Imaginating sex in my mind and when I have sex I will make it be only normal PIV. Guess that's what I need to be 100% healed. In 6 months I come back to this topic and tell the results. Thank you guys.
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Well, 6 months are over. Any news? Have you seen any success?
 
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kulik242

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Don't know if OP ever comes back, however I'm in the same situation after a 1 year long reboot (or was, as I apparently found a solution).

Basically, after a long reboot, I got cured as far as my sexual performance goes, when I tested either by masturbation or being with a woman I had no problem to get and sustain an erection, the problem was I didn't felt any inclination to be with a women or have an orgasm - zero libido.

It seams that the culprit was a lack of regularity in my sexual life, on average, I forced myself to have an orgasm randomly once every two-three weeks. Lack of libido bothered me of course, so I tired something different. I've started to MO every third day for two weeks and then I stopped, Immediately on the third day from the last O as my body expected an orgasm I got hit by horniness and my libido was back (rather strong mind you).

Word of caution, the horniness also brought with it also temptation to look at P again and a mild chaser after each orgasm. I realized this after I've took several peeks at porn images which I haven't felt like doing with my zero libido, so it comes at a price. Luckily, it was only my brain remembering that there was something like porn in the far past, it seams that my P pathways died away months ago because those few glimpses left me disgusted at what I saw.
 
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