Hello guys I'm currently experiencing HOCD due to massive loads of porn. I have a question to ask to help get over this HOCD. I know I have false attractions and feelings including gay thoughts but I was wondering if its normal for straight men to think some guys are good looking without any sexual desire and not be gay? I know some guys who are insecure and get jealous because they wish they can be like brad pitt or some other guy. I mean I'm even insecure myself and I hear other straight guys say that other guys think thay way deep inside but does not want to admit it because of their pride.
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HOCD
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yeah its normal for straight guys to think that some guys are good looking without any sexual desire. thats more normal than to think that everyone is ugly ;D
You're right Nikola Numez. I got read this from a website. All my anxiety mostly went away. Now I know how to fight it when it comes back.
So am I really just gay?
This question can't be answered without knowing your unique situation, of course, but in general, the person who's suffering from HOCD is likely to already have a set orientation. If you have been or have experiences from being straight and you fear that you're gay, it's very likely that you're straight and the "gay feeling" is just a symptom of your underlying OCD.
Rarely does the anxiety revolving around "being in the closet" manifest as HOCD. Instead, it more often manifests, if it does so as OCD at all, as another type of obsession unrelated to sexual orientation. Similarly, those who have HOCD are very likely to have few, if any, sexual problems in their history that cause this manifestation.
Most of the "gay" feelings you're having stem from your HOCD and are just exaggerations of feelings that are perfectly normal. It's not unusual for completely straight guys to not have a problem showering in a gym, not enjoying sports, liking art, or otherwise doing culturally "gay" things. Just because society labels men who enjoy these things as "gay" doesn't make them sexually gay.
In fact, even finding other men attractive doesn't necessarily mean you're gay. This is a faulty assumption. As humans, we "categorize" things subconsciously and often bring these labels forward consciously when describing them. Any man would agree that Brad Pitt is "handsome" or "good looking." People we see every day, men and women, fall into these categories. They are "pretty," "nice looking," "hot," etc. Even the straightest of straight men will occasionally have "gay" thoughts about another man. Sexual thoughts run the gamut and we often have little control over them. Just because you thought of another man in a sexual way does not mean you're gay or even bisexual. It means you're normal.
So am I really just gay?
This question can't be answered without knowing your unique situation, of course, but in general, the person who's suffering from HOCD is likely to already have a set orientation. If you have been or have experiences from being straight and you fear that you're gay, it's very likely that you're straight and the "gay feeling" is just a symptom of your underlying OCD.
Rarely does the anxiety revolving around "being in the closet" manifest as HOCD. Instead, it more often manifests, if it does so as OCD at all, as another type of obsession unrelated to sexual orientation. Similarly, those who have HOCD are very likely to have few, if any, sexual problems in their history that cause this manifestation.
Most of the "gay" feelings you're having stem from your HOCD and are just exaggerations of feelings that are perfectly normal. It's not unusual for completely straight guys to not have a problem showering in a gym, not enjoying sports, liking art, or otherwise doing culturally "gay" things. Just because society labels men who enjoy these things as "gay" doesn't make them sexually gay.
In fact, even finding other men attractive doesn't necessarily mean you're gay. This is a faulty assumption. As humans, we "categorize" things subconsciously and often bring these labels forward consciously when describing them. Any man would agree that Brad Pitt is "handsome" or "good looking." People we see every day, men and women, fall into these categories. They are "pretty," "nice looking," "hot," etc. Even the straightest of straight men will occasionally have "gay" thoughts about another man. Sexual thoughts run the gamut and we often have little control over them. Just because you thought of another man in a sexual way does not mean you're gay or even bisexual. It means you're normal.