EworCaz
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When I tell my most trusted friends about my depression or struggle with PMO the most common reaction is laughing. I am in recovery with 9 years clean from drugs and alcohol. I have a tight support group, and some really understanding loving brothers, sisters, and a sponsor. I work a 12 step program.
Porn addiction is a joke to most of these people. I used an app a while back called Ever Accountable. It would have worked great if my accountability partners took it seriously. Embarassingly there were a few times when they caught me looking at P, and called me out on it. I gave them some excuse like, ?yeah its under control now?. They believed me! Recovering addicts with years clean believed me on my first line of bullshit I fed them!
Now here I am again. I have today. I haven?t used any P and haven?t even touched my D. My balls ache. I am trying to do this one day at a time, but secretly my goal is to put 2 weeks together, in hopes that it will boost my mental focus and physical energy.
Ive been very depressed. The depression is obviously linked to the PMO, because after I finish, I have superficial thoughts of suicide. Ive got a lot of great things going on in my life so I don?t actually feel like pulling the trigger, but the thoughts are there. I feel socially awkward, and totally out of control of my world. I compulsively eat, and masturbate every spare moment. Everything else in life feels like a chore and a huge bother.
Last year I was able to put together 90 days. I experienced a major slump/flat line from around day 60 to day 80. Those 90 days were the most productive, and fulfilling 90 days id had in years. My depression was lifted, my libido was like a normal human libido(omit that 20 day flatline). I read about 15 books, and lost about 20lbs of extra weight. I truly felt the ?super powers? that others discuss. I recognized them not as super-powers, but a return to my vibrant self in my college years, when I spent 18 hours a day at school, in classes, clubs, the gym, and the library, and had time to pursue multiple girlfriends.
At this point I don?t yearn for ?super powers?, I just want out of this depression. I want to play music, and be satisfied with the sounds that come from my voice, and guitar. I want to enjoy it again. I want to enjoy being outside, and sweating, and playing with my dog. That?s all I want. I want hard times, and I want to face them boldly, and solve problems. I want to enjoy socializing.
Writing this has been very therapeutic.
Even if no one has read it, I still appreciate this forum being here. If anyone has read it please consider being an accountability partner with me. I can?t get through this alone, and as I said at the beginning, my friends in 12-step recovery have not been as supportive as id like.
Porn addiction is a joke to most of these people. I used an app a while back called Ever Accountable. It would have worked great if my accountability partners took it seriously. Embarassingly there were a few times when they caught me looking at P, and called me out on it. I gave them some excuse like, ?yeah its under control now?. They believed me! Recovering addicts with years clean believed me on my first line of bullshit I fed them!
Now here I am again. I have today. I haven?t used any P and haven?t even touched my D. My balls ache. I am trying to do this one day at a time, but secretly my goal is to put 2 weeks together, in hopes that it will boost my mental focus and physical energy.
Ive been very depressed. The depression is obviously linked to the PMO, because after I finish, I have superficial thoughts of suicide. Ive got a lot of great things going on in my life so I don?t actually feel like pulling the trigger, but the thoughts are there. I feel socially awkward, and totally out of control of my world. I compulsively eat, and masturbate every spare moment. Everything else in life feels like a chore and a huge bother.
Last year I was able to put together 90 days. I experienced a major slump/flat line from around day 60 to day 80. Those 90 days were the most productive, and fulfilling 90 days id had in years. My depression was lifted, my libido was like a normal human libido(omit that 20 day flatline). I read about 15 books, and lost about 20lbs of extra weight. I truly felt the ?super powers? that others discuss. I recognized them not as super-powers, but a return to my vibrant self in my college years, when I spent 18 hours a day at school, in classes, clubs, the gym, and the library, and had time to pursue multiple girlfriends.
At this point I don?t yearn for ?super powers?, I just want out of this depression. I want to play music, and be satisfied with the sounds that come from my voice, and guitar. I want to enjoy it again. I want to enjoy being outside, and sweating, and playing with my dog. That?s all I want. I want hard times, and I want to face them boldly, and solve problems. I want to enjoy socializing.
Writing this has been very therapeutic.
Even if no one has read it, I still appreciate this forum being here. If anyone has read it please consider being an accountability partner with me. I can?t get through this alone, and as I said at the beginning, my friends in 12-step recovery have not been as supportive as id like.