I am a 34 yr old male. I have dealt with porn since I was 14. I have tried repeatedly over the past 2 decades to quit. I come from a religious environment where porn and masturbation are very bad. I am married to a beautiful wife and have 3 kids. My wife will divorce me if she finds out I am still using. I live in fear of losing everything...my family, my job, my future, my career, and my reputation in the community I work and live. I am a big believer in mindfulness and meditation. Over the past 3 years I have been trying to use this as a way to reboot. I find myself more comfortable accepting myself for who I am when I have a relapse but that does not change the haunting facts that follow me around every day!
I find that I am a very driven person in need of affection and affirmation. I find porn is my way to feel accepted and as if I am enough for one moment (even if it is fake). I have fleeting moments of hope that I might actually overcome this part of me...but on days like today I wonder if I am doomed to loose everything because I cannot/will not choose to click on a website.
I went through a addiction recovery program in college where I learned a lot about the problem...for some reason I cannot shake it. And now I am double afraid to try to go into a recovery program because I will lose my wife.
Oh how I wish this could be simply erased from me!
I find that I am a very driven person in need of affection and affirmation. I find porn is my way to feel accepted and as if I am enough for one moment (even if it is fake). I have fleeting moments of hope that I might actually overcome this part of me...but on days like today I wonder if I am doomed to loose everything because I cannot/will not choose to click on a website.
I went through a addiction recovery program in college where I learned a lot about the problem...for some reason I cannot shake it. And now I am double afraid to try to go into a recovery program because I will lose my wife.
Oh how I wish this could be simply erased from me!