AnonymousAnnaXO
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So I found this article ages ago, possibly prior to D-day, but I was going through old books marks about found this article and I was thinking that this was a very enlightening article.
https://goodmenproject.com/featured-content/why-men-objectify-women/
I found that addicts could possibly relate to some degree with some of the things mentioned (hopefully the more mature answers). There are some things in this article I personally disagree with, and I know everyone has their individual opinions, but there are some good little nuggets of "ah-ha" moments. I know personally, my partner is reason number 3, pain avoidance.
So I guess something that I think addicts should think about if they haven't already, is "So when I check out women, what is really going on with me?"
I feel as though some addicts truly work recovery and others might still struggle because they haven't truly dug deep. Some addicts can quit porn and never go back while others relapse every couple months, weeks, or days. So my question to addicts, is maybe you can share what has truly worked for you to stay clean? Is it accountability? Making sure that you are busy? Having emotional support? Engaging in old hobbies? Connecting(or reconnecting) with a spouse/partner/SO? Therapy? etc.
I guess having a year go by, and seeing the progress my partner has made, made me think of all the addicts on here who still struggle immensely with either temptation, urges, or actually are still in the addiction cycle. I know that a lot of addicts get preoccupied with the physical recovery, but that is only part of recovery, and I think emotional recovery is why some addicts can quit and be clean versus other addicts who still struggle. Anyways, this post is just meant to get the brain thinking!
https://goodmenproject.com/featured-content/why-men-objectify-women/
I found that addicts could possibly relate to some degree with some of the things mentioned (hopefully the more mature answers). There are some things in this article I personally disagree with, and I know everyone has their individual opinions, but there are some good little nuggets of "ah-ha" moments. I know personally, my partner is reason number 3, pain avoidance.
So I guess something that I think addicts should think about if they haven't already, is "So when I check out women, what is really going on with me?"
I feel as though some addicts truly work recovery and others might still struggle because they haven't truly dug deep. Some addicts can quit porn and never go back while others relapse every couple months, weeks, or days. So my question to addicts, is maybe you can share what has truly worked for you to stay clean? Is it accountability? Making sure that you are busy? Having emotional support? Engaging in old hobbies? Connecting(or reconnecting) with a spouse/partner/SO? Therapy? etc.
I guess having a year go by, and seeing the progress my partner has made, made me think of all the addicts on here who still struggle immensely with either temptation, urges, or actually are still in the addiction cycle. I know that a lot of addicts get preoccupied with the physical recovery, but that is only part of recovery, and I think emotional recovery is why some addicts can quit and be clean versus other addicts who still struggle. Anyways, this post is just meant to get the brain thinking!