Do some people have the wrong mindset?
How are you thinking about this? How are you approaching it?
I'm doing a REBOOT. I intend to complete the reboot, I intend to do it only once.
A reboot is resetting your dopamine system and your sexual arousal system to normal functioning ...I want normal brain function, I want normal sexual arousal, and sexual function. The amount of time required to achieve this, is the amount of time I intend to do no PMO.
I intend to never look at porn again.
I don't want to do no MO for the rest of my life, once a reboot is complete this isn't necessary. I will go back to MO / sex after completion of a reboot. But I won't go back to the same habits, it won't be everyday and I will regularly do no MO, maybe one week in every month or 30 days once or twice a year.
If you are just trying to resist looking at porn for days at a time then relapsing, what are you achieving? If you still want to look at porn but are just abstaining for a period of time, then relapsing, what are you achieving? You are still existing in a state of addiction and relapse.
If you are just trying to beat your personal best nofap total, and relapsing, and going back to porn, and it's within the time frame required for a full reboot, what are you achieving? you are still existing in a state of addiction and relapse.
Instead of doing and having the concept of 'nofap' in your mind, (which implies a temporary state of abstinence) and doing 20 / 30 / 40 or whatever number of days then relapsing, go for complete change, and a complete reboot. Even if it takes a period of months, that's still a shorter period of time than endlessly doing short periods of abstainence and then relapsing.
If I'm experiencing uncomfortable feelings, or urges, do I want to destroy the progress of my reboot or greatly set it back? or do I want to push through to the bigger, long term goal of a normal functioning dopamine system and normal sex life?
I'm not saying I have sussed it, I'm not saying it is easy, it certainly isn't, I'm not saying I have succeeded yet, but I am on the way and I think mindset and having what you want to achieve strong in your mind is important.
Doing a reboot, and experiencing all the withdrawal symptoms and discomfort for a period of weeks / months is horrible, but if you do it right you will only have to do it once, and the pain suffered is much better than living your whole life in a state of temporary abstinence and relapse, and porn misery.
These are just my current thoughts, I'm on Day 48, (It was easy first week or so, then I experienced about 4 weeks of constant intense withdrawal symptoms one after the other ... (bleak) depression, anxiety, insomnia, headaches, migraine, no energy / motivation, flatline, urges etc, but in the last couple of weeks they have significantly eased off)
What is it that you want to achieve?
Hope you have a good day.
How are you thinking about this? How are you approaching it?
I'm doing a REBOOT. I intend to complete the reboot, I intend to do it only once.
A reboot is resetting your dopamine system and your sexual arousal system to normal functioning ...I want normal brain function, I want normal sexual arousal, and sexual function. The amount of time required to achieve this, is the amount of time I intend to do no PMO.
I intend to never look at porn again.
I don't want to do no MO for the rest of my life, once a reboot is complete this isn't necessary. I will go back to MO / sex after completion of a reboot. But I won't go back to the same habits, it won't be everyday and I will regularly do no MO, maybe one week in every month or 30 days once or twice a year.
If you are just trying to resist looking at porn for days at a time then relapsing, what are you achieving? If you still want to look at porn but are just abstaining for a period of time, then relapsing, what are you achieving? You are still existing in a state of addiction and relapse.
If you are just trying to beat your personal best nofap total, and relapsing, and going back to porn, and it's within the time frame required for a full reboot, what are you achieving? you are still existing in a state of addiction and relapse.
Instead of doing and having the concept of 'nofap' in your mind, (which implies a temporary state of abstinence) and doing 20 / 30 / 40 or whatever number of days then relapsing, go for complete change, and a complete reboot. Even if it takes a period of months, that's still a shorter period of time than endlessly doing short periods of abstainence and then relapsing.
If I'm experiencing uncomfortable feelings, or urges, do I want to destroy the progress of my reboot or greatly set it back? or do I want to push through to the bigger, long term goal of a normal functioning dopamine system and normal sex life?
I'm not saying I have sussed it, I'm not saying it is easy, it certainly isn't, I'm not saying I have succeeded yet, but I am on the way and I think mindset and having what you want to achieve strong in your mind is important.
Doing a reboot, and experiencing all the withdrawal symptoms and discomfort for a period of weeks / months is horrible, but if you do it right you will only have to do it once, and the pain suffered is much better than living your whole life in a state of temporary abstinence and relapse, and porn misery.
These are just my current thoughts, I'm on Day 48, (It was easy first week or so, then I experienced about 4 weeks of constant intense withdrawal symptoms one after the other ... (bleak) depression, anxiety, insomnia, headaches, migraine, no energy / motivation, flatline, urges etc, but in the last couple of weeks they have significantly eased off)
What is it that you want to achieve?
Hope you have a good day.