So I'm at day 95ish (I haven't been keeping track that closely) and things are going pretty good. Since I came to recognize my addiction two and a half years ago I've been slowly and painfully building better habits to improve my life and occupy my time and my mind. It seems to finally be paying off now in that I have been PMO free for this long and it hasn't been nearly as much of a challenge as it was when I first tried to quit. I'm so focused on everything else I have going on I don't even think about PMO very often anymore. Cravings do hit and that's a challenge but it's not the unrelenting buzz in the head it used to be.
I do realize something that is difficult for me however, and that's how to express myself sexually with women in a healthy way. I never learned how to do so. Growing up I always thought based on media that women didn't really want or enjoy sex and it made me feel bad to pursue women. Top that with a Southern sex education (abstinence only, sex is bad unless your married, condoms fail all the time, have sex you're going to get an std or pregnant BS) and then PMO daily from the time I hit puberty around 13/14 to when I first made a serious attempt at quitting at 22 and I have no idea how to engage with women sexually. I have had sex but I don't know how to show sexual interest in women in a healthy manner. I'm really good at conversing but then it comes across like I'm only interested in being their friend and I don't know how to go the next step to show interest in more.
Regardless, I'm still doing good on my journey. I started my own business, I work part time at a farm that I love, I've taught myself how to cook and have gotten better and better at it, I've fixed a lot of my sleep problems, and overall I feel a hell of a lot better about life. Soon I will be posting in the success section, but only after I've figured out my problem with self expression and find a woman to share intimacy with. Any advice would be greatly appreciated. Stay strong!
I do realize something that is difficult for me however, and that's how to express myself sexually with women in a healthy way. I never learned how to do so. Growing up I always thought based on media that women didn't really want or enjoy sex and it made me feel bad to pursue women. Top that with a Southern sex education (abstinence only, sex is bad unless your married, condoms fail all the time, have sex you're going to get an std or pregnant BS) and then PMO daily from the time I hit puberty around 13/14 to when I first made a serious attempt at quitting at 22 and I have no idea how to engage with women sexually. I have had sex but I don't know how to show sexual interest in women in a healthy manner. I'm really good at conversing but then it comes across like I'm only interested in being their friend and I don't know how to go the next step to show interest in more.
Regardless, I'm still doing good on my journey. I started my own business, I work part time at a farm that I love, I've taught myself how to cook and have gotten better and better at it, I've fixed a lot of my sleep problems, and overall I feel a hell of a lot better about life. Soon I will be posting in the success section, but only after I've figured out my problem with self expression and find a woman to share intimacy with. Any advice would be greatly appreciated. Stay strong!