7.th day, what happens next? ?

[PornuserNoMore50]

It's my 7th day with no porn, no nothing.
7 days ago and years before that libido was very bad, now It's  really really strong. Even my balls feel a little sensitive.

Porn is now history, and I want to let me build up without masturbating or sex for as long as possible, thereafter only normal sex.

But I worry about the "flatline" period, if it happens to me I worry that my brain will connect it to the dead libido as I have felt for years, that this 7 days great build up will stop and that my brain will accept no activity and produce less hormones according to this.

Can this happen? I read a little about flatline period and I would like to know exactly what this is , how long it lasts and if it means that my great build up change for the better or worse. To me, "better" means that I must fight to control myself. Then I actually have a libido and feel alive and like a man.

The last 3 days my libido is awesome, and tonight I woke up and it was like I had got another mans angry penis attatced. It was REALLY strong and I had to collect will from the deep not to roll over my wife and just stick it in her. . I want to, and hope to build up to nuclear explotion rather than conventional firearm

 

[OldHornyGuy]

Sounds like things are going good for you, at least in the physical department.  Apparently not everyone flatlines, so you may not.  Just take things from day to day and see how it goes.

How does you wife feel about this?

 

[PornuserNoMore50]

Sounds like things are going good for you, at least in the physical department.  Apparently not everyone flatlines, so you may not.  Just take things from day to day and see how it goes.

How does you wife feel about this?

So far she doesn't know anything, im waiting for the right moment to talk to her. This is not easy, telling her.
And you have a point, it remains to see the psycological bit. Beeing so used to porn after 20 years or more, it will necessarily take some time to establish new connectors in the brain. I know because some years ago I had really serious social anxiety and panic attacks, which i had successful treatment for. I succeeded 95%. The theory connected to this treatment is so to speak identical to this websites refferal to dopamine and signal structure in brain. Avoiding is what maintain social anxiety. Building new pathways in brain means repeating new behaviour over and over again, and then harvest.

 

[OldHornyGuy]

And if you have been through a similar rewiring process, I am sure you had ups and downs, days when your social anxiety seemed to surge back at odd times, this will too.

You may find the conversation with your wife to be both easier and harder than you expect.  On the one hand she almost surely knows something is going on and may be relieved to find it is virtual rather than real.  But that doesn't mean she'll be happy either.  You don't need to go into all the gory details (she probably doesn't want to hear them anyway) but having your wife on your side makes this all so much easier.

I found this site very useful in helping with a relationship where sex has been problematic.

http://www.reuniting.info/

Peace and Stay Strong!