So,
I'm 30 years old and i'm married. I finally realized what was causing my complete disinterest in sex with my wife (or really thinking about sex at all). After taking a step back and realizing I couldn't wait for her to go to sleep so I could PMO and that I had been doing so for years, I found YBOP and this forum back in February, and it was great.
I told my wife about everything, stopped cold turkey. no more watching porn, I promised. After 8-12 weeks things started getting better. I was getting aroused by my wife again. I had morning wood for the first time in 3 years. all great things. For the past 2.5 months I have been acting like a horny teenager and eager to have sex all the time and my wife has been into it as well, loving my "new found interest" in her.
Last night I went to my old fav website, watched the first video i saw and PMO'ed. I did it again tonight, thinking that since i already did it last night, whats the big deal? 6 fucking months I was able to go without porn and out of the blue I went back like it was nothing.
I don't know why it happened. There was no trigger. I wasn't thinking about porn and went with it (not consciously at least) but somehow i ended up on a website I didn't want to be on and it was too late.
I feel like a huge piece of shit. I've never really appreciated addiction. I'm still feeling the endorphin rush now from an hour ago. I want it to stop. I know there's nothing to do but to start all over again but now I'm concerned that i'll just relapse again.
I can't tell my wife. It was embarrassing enough telling her about everything the first time and promising i will never watch it again.
Will this relapse ruin all of the progress that it has taken me 6 months to accomplish? I'm terrified its going to be like it was 6 months ago and I won't be "up" for it like I have been recently. Things have been going so well. I can't describe how shitty I feel right now.
I would welcome any advice or comments. Just writing this had been somewhat cathartic since I can't share it anywhere else.
Thanks
I'm 30 years old and i'm married. I finally realized what was causing my complete disinterest in sex with my wife (or really thinking about sex at all). After taking a step back and realizing I couldn't wait for her to go to sleep so I could PMO and that I had been doing so for years, I found YBOP and this forum back in February, and it was great.
I told my wife about everything, stopped cold turkey. no more watching porn, I promised. After 8-12 weeks things started getting better. I was getting aroused by my wife again. I had morning wood for the first time in 3 years. all great things. For the past 2.5 months I have been acting like a horny teenager and eager to have sex all the time and my wife has been into it as well, loving my "new found interest" in her.
Last night I went to my old fav website, watched the first video i saw and PMO'ed. I did it again tonight, thinking that since i already did it last night, whats the big deal? 6 fucking months I was able to go without porn and out of the blue I went back like it was nothing.
I don't know why it happened. There was no trigger. I wasn't thinking about porn and went with it (not consciously at least) but somehow i ended up on a website I didn't want to be on and it was too late.
I feel like a huge piece of shit. I've never really appreciated addiction. I'm still feeling the endorphin rush now from an hour ago. I want it to stop. I know there's nothing to do but to start all over again but now I'm concerned that i'll just relapse again.
I can't tell my wife. It was embarrassing enough telling her about everything the first time and promising i will never watch it again.
Will this relapse ruin all of the progress that it has taken me 6 months to accomplish? I'm terrified its going to be like it was 6 months ago and I won't be "up" for it like I have been recently. Things have been going so well. I can't describe how shitty I feel right now.
I would welcome any advice or comments. Just writing this had been somewhat cathartic since I can't share it anywhere else.
Thanks