Inner_Light
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Day 3 (First entry)
I'm starting to share here on what is Day 3 of my reboot, after many attempts in the past. This time is qualitatively different, and I want to record it here to encourage, and be encouraged by, others on the journey.
The difference is that I come at this when circumstances in my life are reshaping my identity and creating and enforcing the habits of a new self are more possible than before. First, I recently turned down a great career opportunity to be able to spend more time with my wife -- the first time I have not grabbed the next big rung on the career ladder. The moment I made that decision I felt something shift inside me. I had just made a real choice -- one with consequences -- that affirmed my love and my intention to live more in the present, no longer motivated by a combination of ambition and anxiety. I felt a both relief mixed with apprehension at a new direction.
Second, I'm approaching sixty years old, and that milestone on the horizon has made me more aware of the shortness of time. I've begun to think of the possibilities of living the later stages of my life doing all the things I love and value, forming an alternative career that is more satisfying and allows me to balance good work with the joy of being with my loved ones. The urgency brought by the awareness of my own mortality has forced me to imagine a better life and to not waste any time getting there. Part of "getting there," paradoxically, is to be fully present now -- to live the best life I can now. That means no porn today, and every today that comes after this one.
I've adopted "Inner Light" as my ID here because I believe we all are good and perfect at the core. Buddhists say that we all have Buddha nature; Christians believe we are God's creation; other religions say similar things about the essential goodness of who we are. I've stopped thinking of myself as a person who uses porn and instead feel a light inside me. In the words of an old gospel song, I'm going to let it shine.
I'm starting to share here on what is Day 3 of my reboot, after many attempts in the past. This time is qualitatively different, and I want to record it here to encourage, and be encouraged by, others on the journey.
The difference is that I come at this when circumstances in my life are reshaping my identity and creating and enforcing the habits of a new self are more possible than before. First, I recently turned down a great career opportunity to be able to spend more time with my wife -- the first time I have not grabbed the next big rung on the career ladder. The moment I made that decision I felt something shift inside me. I had just made a real choice -- one with consequences -- that affirmed my love and my intention to live more in the present, no longer motivated by a combination of ambition and anxiety. I felt a both relief mixed with apprehension at a new direction.
Second, I'm approaching sixty years old, and that milestone on the horizon has made me more aware of the shortness of time. I've begun to think of the possibilities of living the later stages of my life doing all the things I love and value, forming an alternative career that is more satisfying and allows me to balance good work with the joy of being with my loved ones. The urgency brought by the awareness of my own mortality has forced me to imagine a better life and to not waste any time getting there. Part of "getting there," paradoxically, is to be fully present now -- to live the best life I can now. That means no porn today, and every today that comes after this one.
I've adopted "Inner Light" as my ID here because I believe we all are good and perfect at the core. Buddhists say that we all have Buddha nature; Christians believe we are God's creation; other religions say similar things about the essential goodness of who we are. I've stopped thinking of myself as a person who uses porn and instead feel a light inside me. In the words of an old gospel song, I'm going to let it shine.