Hi. Here we are on the way, very excited about wanting to reach 90 days without PMO. 5 days, going well by now!. I was wondering whether or not to upload this post. I do not intend to be controversial, but I would like to know what opinions you have about what I am going to say. As a porn addict that I begin to recognize myself, I have clear and I always had it, that pornography in my life is not an option, that is, I know that I will always have to take precautions to avoid falling into an addiction. It could be similar to the alcoholic who has no choice over alcohol, knows that it will be sealed for life. I could say that I understand.
But what about masturbation? I explain. I am here because I started with the PMO plan and I want to regain my ability to erect and recover a good sexual life, my last 3 experiences were not good about erection. If the plan says 90 days without masturbation I will. But after? I mean, if you do not have a partner at any given time, really masturbation (without porn, which is clear) can be harmful. What is the balance? If you ask me I would say that as long as I do not consume porn, or anything that makes me fall into sexually compulsive attitudes, masturbation would be fine. I clarify that I never had a compulsive attitude with masturbation without consumption of pornography, only when I was adolescent.
I do not want to confuse the staff, I can only clarify this issue, because it is disconcerting yo me, not with Plan 90, but after. I think sex is something healthy, that for some reason, each of us here (and many who are not) did not give it good use at the time. But is it necessary to think about a lifelong abstinence behavior regarding masturbation ?. Maybe I did not understand some guidelines well, or maybe that applies to some and not others. It happens that the idea of thinking this way I do not know to what extent it is healthy. I mean, sex is not alcohol or drugs, it's part of our biology. To know how to enjoy it, I think it's even necessary. Well, I hope I have been clear, if anyone can clarify this, welcome.
Hugs!
But what about masturbation? I explain. I am here because I started with the PMO plan and I want to regain my ability to erect and recover a good sexual life, my last 3 experiences were not good about erection. If the plan says 90 days without masturbation I will. But after? I mean, if you do not have a partner at any given time, really masturbation (without porn, which is clear) can be harmful. What is the balance? If you ask me I would say that as long as I do not consume porn, or anything that makes me fall into sexually compulsive attitudes, masturbation would be fine. I clarify that I never had a compulsive attitude with masturbation without consumption of pornography, only when I was adolescent.
I do not want to confuse the staff, I can only clarify this issue, because it is disconcerting yo me, not with Plan 90, but after. I think sex is something healthy, that for some reason, each of us here (and many who are not) did not give it good use at the time. But is it necessary to think about a lifelong abstinence behavior regarding masturbation ?. Maybe I did not understand some guidelines well, or maybe that applies to some and not others. It happens that the idea of thinking this way I do not know to what extent it is healthy. I mean, sex is not alcohol or drugs, it's part of our biology. To know how to enjoy it, I think it's even necessary. Well, I hope I have been clear, if anyone can clarify this, welcome.
Hugs!