It's porn addiction recovery 101. Porn is not just porn, not for an addict, and, in fact, porn addiction is not even porn addiction. We suffer from dopamine addiction, or, technically, porn induced dopamine addiction. But, even more specifically, we use porn to generate hypersexual thoughts, and those hypersexual thoughts lead to a prolonged, profound, dopamine reaction. It is a way to get high. Porn = hypersexual thoughts = dopamine reaction = high (euphoric feeling). During the reboot, especially during the reboot, the brain will trigger on just about anything to get a sexual thought, to get the dopamine fix you are denying it. It is not, so much, that having a sexual thought is bad, it is just that, after years of abusing and consuming porn, you become addicted to it. So, recognize what is happening. You are using dating sites in, essentially, the same way you were using porn. Maybe after you are rebooted, this is something you can do, but during the reboot phase, you are using the dating site like a P sub; surfing them, searching them, and getting a dopamine high in the process. During the reboot, avoid anything that gives you a dopamine rush. "All of it" means P, M, O, PMO, sex, sexual thoughts, Porn subs, etc. If your toaster starts to look good to you in the reboot, through it out, at least until after the reboot. No, actually, if your toaster starts to look good to you, you have bigger issues than P addiction. Don't play with your triggers until after you are rebooted. Do the hard 90. Pain is the price we pay to get free, so, be prepared to pay it.
Much love.
W.