Hello everyone,
I'm 23. I'm very glad i finally found this website and forum that answered to the main cause of my problem. It's the lost of desire of having sex. And because I have a GF and she is one of the best persons in my life, I got serious about my issue and started analyzing and taking care of. She wants to make love with me and I just don't have the same passion. I even remember that once I didn't get an erection with her. I was a bit of tired yes, but the reality was she didn't arouse me, although her body is very good looking. It was then I took it very seriously and started to search for a cure.
I was never fond of porn videos, but instead of pictures and stories. I preferred them, because of my imagination and fantasies. But I believe they are the same evil, if they act as a "replacement" of real sexual partners. Since puberty, I used to view at erotic material every time I wanted to self-satisfy myself. Sometimes I did every day, sometimes twice a day. When I grew up and started having a job, I started doing it less. I didn't do it hardcore like some people claim to do (like hours per day), because I'm a laborious person. I always have hobbies and activities to do. But one of the main evils was also my favorite sexual fantasy which I loved and it makes me very horny, but it's incompatible with real life.
After finding this website, I told to myself "No more!". I deleted all erotic data and I stopped visiting my favorite websites. I also started to forbid my brain to think about my favorite sexual fantasy. It's the 7th day clean right now. I'm very amazed from the changes. I feel much more positive, happy, energetic and initiating. I'm more sociable and self confident. I think, sleep and dream better. I also noticed I'm more tolerant, getting less angry.
This morning, I also got a random erection and a few hours again too, without viewing at or thinking about any erotic material. I also start having a desire of visiting my GF and I am paying attention to her body details and how beautiful she is. I realized that most of the sex materials on the net gives you very high, unrealistic standards and when your brain adapts to them, the real world women start to look boring to you.
If I get a desire of browsing the internet for sexual activities, I just come here and start reading. I hope my topic would be helpful to someone else.
Regards!
Edit:
I took the opportunity to copy this test of measuring progress from another thread and to answer myself. Here, at day 7:
1. You can achieve a rock solid erection just by touching and sensation with No porn and NO fantasy! (remember its not good to test so this should only be done if your feeling good about the following lol)
Before - 50-60% hard erection. Now 90-100%
2. You feel like connecting with people and you notice satisfaction on everyday things and a sort of appreciation for small things like a cute girls smile.
I get much more connecting and I do notice small everyday things and enjoy life much better.
3. You no longer crave porn at all but you desire to interact with real girls! This is a good sign your brain knows the old wankin habits are gone.
Work in progress
4. Your sexual thoughts change. Meaning when fantasies do pop up in your head they're not porn related but more natural. (example seeing a girl and insted of thinking about her bent over a chair you think about how amazing just normal good old fashion missionary sex would be)
Yes they do. W.I.P
5. You are getting fairly consistent morning wood. And maybe some spontaneous erections throughout the day.
Today it was the first. I will try to monitor them.
6. Semen leakage (if you had any) like when you go to the bathroom and notice some cloudy stuff in the water after you pee.. Has stopped.
Never had one.
7. Sex (if you are able to have it) feels fantastic.
I don't know yet.
8. You have a desire to talk to or pursue a partner.
Yes, I can feel this desire increasing.
9. After an orgasm you do not go into a flatline.
No answer yet.
10. Your refractory period shortens.
No answer yet.
I'm 23. I'm very glad i finally found this website and forum that answered to the main cause of my problem. It's the lost of desire of having sex. And because I have a GF and she is one of the best persons in my life, I got serious about my issue and started analyzing and taking care of. She wants to make love with me and I just don't have the same passion. I even remember that once I didn't get an erection with her. I was a bit of tired yes, but the reality was she didn't arouse me, although her body is very good looking. It was then I took it very seriously and started to search for a cure.
I was never fond of porn videos, but instead of pictures and stories. I preferred them, because of my imagination and fantasies. But I believe they are the same evil, if they act as a "replacement" of real sexual partners. Since puberty, I used to view at erotic material every time I wanted to self-satisfy myself. Sometimes I did every day, sometimes twice a day. When I grew up and started having a job, I started doing it less. I didn't do it hardcore like some people claim to do (like hours per day), because I'm a laborious person. I always have hobbies and activities to do. But one of the main evils was also my favorite sexual fantasy which I loved and it makes me very horny, but it's incompatible with real life.
After finding this website, I told to myself "No more!". I deleted all erotic data and I stopped visiting my favorite websites. I also started to forbid my brain to think about my favorite sexual fantasy. It's the 7th day clean right now. I'm very amazed from the changes. I feel much more positive, happy, energetic and initiating. I'm more sociable and self confident. I think, sleep and dream better. I also noticed I'm more tolerant, getting less angry.
This morning, I also got a random erection and a few hours again too, without viewing at or thinking about any erotic material. I also start having a desire of visiting my GF and I am paying attention to her body details and how beautiful she is. I realized that most of the sex materials on the net gives you very high, unrealistic standards and when your brain adapts to them, the real world women start to look boring to you.
If I get a desire of browsing the internet for sexual activities, I just come here and start reading. I hope my topic would be helpful to someone else.
Regards!
Edit:
I took the opportunity to copy this test of measuring progress from another thread and to answer myself. Here, at day 7:
1. You can achieve a rock solid erection just by touching and sensation with No porn and NO fantasy! (remember its not good to test so this should only be done if your feeling good about the following lol)
Before - 50-60% hard erection. Now 90-100%
2. You feel like connecting with people and you notice satisfaction on everyday things and a sort of appreciation for small things like a cute girls smile.
I get much more connecting and I do notice small everyday things and enjoy life much better.
3. You no longer crave porn at all but you desire to interact with real girls! This is a good sign your brain knows the old wankin habits are gone.
Work in progress
4. Your sexual thoughts change. Meaning when fantasies do pop up in your head they're not porn related but more natural. (example seeing a girl and insted of thinking about her bent over a chair you think about how amazing just normal good old fashion missionary sex would be)
Yes they do. W.I.P
5. You are getting fairly consistent morning wood. And maybe some spontaneous erections throughout the day.
Today it was the first. I will try to monitor them.
6. Semen leakage (if you had any) like when you go to the bathroom and notice some cloudy stuff in the water after you pee.. Has stopped.
Never had one.
7. Sex (if you are able to have it) feels fantastic.
I don't know yet.
8. You have a desire to talk to or pursue a partner.
Yes, I can feel this desire increasing.
9. After an orgasm you do not go into a flatline.
No answer yet.
10. Your refractory period shortens.
No answer yet.
