Reached day 85 ? but still have questions

[Lemthewiser]

This has been a long long long and frustrating journey. I finally made it to ALMOST 90 days, 85 days to be exact BUT SOMETHING STILL ISNT RIGHT. Please help with advice!

For the past 2 weeks my gf and I have been messing around, but always being careful to stop just before I felt I was going to ejaculate. Together we have been really enjoying it. I?ve been feeling amazing and really happy with how my body (aka my penis) has been reacting. I have had no problems with an erection and our connection has been greater than ever. I thought I had concurred my reboot and PIED for good.

But yesterday after a conversation with her, I decided I?ve been feeling so good and made so much progress from my PIED (which cause me to start this journey) that we could take the next step and have sex to the point of an orgasm. Not to get too graphic but I had a super intense orgasm. But right after it was like my penis was numbed out. I wanted to go again, she wanted to go again, but I just couldn?t. It really made both of us extremely frustrated. It was until this morning when I woke up with Morning Wood, that I began feeling a little bit back to normal but even then I wasn?t erect enough to have sex.

I?m pretty down about it, and worried that I didn?t do something right during my reboot. Has anybody else experienced this? Either my refractory period is extremely long or maybe I?m just not over all of my PIED symptoms yet

 

[57yrold]

Were you able to go two times right in a row before this whole thing started?  (I've never really been able to do that.  Even when I was younger.  Always needed quite a bit of time between O.)

The only thing I've heard about O after reboot is that it might cause 'chaser effect.'  I think you can read about that on this website.

I know Gabe took 6 months to reboot, but then I think he waited pretty long before O. 

Watch his videos on this site to see what he has to say about that.

 

[Lemthewiser]

Thanks for the response. Maybe not back to back within a couple minutes, but my normal was about 30 minutes. Yesterday, I was down for the rest of the night and because of that I could feel myself becoming stressed and frustrated which also probably didn't help.

Thanks for the advice, I'll watch the videos and hopefully I can gain some insight from there. Maybe I just need more time. Its frustrating though because I thought I had been through the worst of everything already. I just want to move on with my life.

 

[57yrold]

Dude, don't get frustrated.  You're having sex, and you're doing FANTASTIC!

I'm incredibly inspired!!

 

[kulik242]

You are ready when you are ready, she'll have to deal with it:

8)

Seriously though, my current refractory period is around 36 hrs and I'm one year into a reboot. I reintroduced O after 4 months of rebooting, my refractory period then was 3 weeks (it was more like a flatline). It is still getting better. My advice is to focus on the quality not the quantity of sex.

 

[Lemthewiser]

Thanks for responding @Kullk242. Thats a great gif haha. Just a quick update, I think I just need more time to let my body heal. Since my first post, we have messed around a few times, no sex because she was on her period. This last time I was able to get a normal erection/ejaculate through an HJ. And then SOMEHOW was able to get another erection again after about 30 minutes (to my surprise and excitement!). At this point she wanted to have sex, and I was up for it (physically and mentally). But then she went to the bathroom, and while I was waiting, I just started over thinking and ruined the whole thing  :-\. We talked about it, and she was cool about it, she wants me to feel 100%.

This was like a step forward, to take a step back. I'm going to give myself more time, work on consistently meditating, and doing Kegels. Hopefully this combination will produce better results. But on the bright side I have accomplished a lot. No PMO for 90 days, no urge to watch porn, no urge to masturbate. This is a huge considering where I was to start.