joepanic
Respected Member
At 46 Ive decided to make a decision. For close to 30 years i have been viewing porn in one form or another. It started mid 80's with old vcr tapes my dad had of the"golden Age of Porn" You probably remember some of the names(dont think I should name them at the moment in the 90s it was the same tapes but ones I had obtained. than in 2000 came the internet and websites galore. And finally chat lines and casual hookup sites exc' I assume I have an addiction as I view things and pmo on a fairly reg basis I am married for 11 years now and my wife knows I surf"a little porn" now and than but not to the extent I am We make love 2-3 times month and its always great I had a small history or being sexually abused a long time ago but have sufficiently put that behind me (I was into porn before that happened) I lead a pretty full life today with a good job and some fun(non porn) hobbies
Now Why I'm here
Ive found over the years looking back that I wasted so much time surfing porn that other endeavors suffered greatly and I'm bothered by the lost time and oppertunities Time I def cannot get back I want to stop wasting this time and get productive in life Having done some reading and learning bout relapse Having told myself so many times I dont need this stuff other guys dont do it they got better lives than me They are out doing things living life and I'm sitting here clicking away beating my meat and It came to me what a failure ive been in so many ways and why did it not bother me that much?
Porn was a time filling crutch and an easy reward based activity that took no effort at all slowely rewiring my brain.
So looking around and doing slot of reading I realize I'm in for a battle. Not so much a battle to not view porn anymore but a battle to regain control of my time and energy to do the things I want to do and achieve the goals I want to achieve
So all the advice in the world is going to be welcome I am at present 6 days into the fight for my time I'm going through all the great things in my mind that I want to do and realizing how far behind I am and the amount of work it will take to catch up I have been a musician for 28 years but have never reached any of the goals I wanted to
And so it begins on the 21st of Dec 2017 I viewed my last image of porn
Now Why I'm here
Ive found over the years looking back that I wasted so much time surfing porn that other endeavors suffered greatly and I'm bothered by the lost time and oppertunities Time I def cannot get back I want to stop wasting this time and get productive in life Having done some reading and learning bout relapse Having told myself so many times I dont need this stuff other guys dont do it they got better lives than me They are out doing things living life and I'm sitting here clicking away beating my meat and It came to me what a failure ive been in so many ways and why did it not bother me that much?
Porn was a time filling crutch and an easy reward based activity that took no effort at all slowely rewiring my brain.
So looking around and doing slot of reading I realize I'm in for a battle. Not so much a battle to not view porn anymore but a battle to regain control of my time and energy to do the things I want to do and achieve the goals I want to achieve
So all the advice in the world is going to be welcome I am at present 6 days into the fight for my time I'm going through all the great things in my mind that I want to do and realizing how far behind I am and the amount of work it will take to catch up I have been a musician for 28 years but have never reached any of the goals I wanted to
And so it begins on the 21st of Dec 2017 I viewed my last image of porn