Unfortunately things are not always that easy, SH2. When I started my hard reboot early this year I came out of four consecutive nights where I could not reach erection with my then gf, with whom I had a deep intimacy since many months. This is why now I am concerned about my sexual ability before meeting a woman I like. Women say that sex is not that important for them, but they lie: they want to have good sex...sheep22 said:You guys are so worried about having sex with a woman right away, maybe you should try to get to know them first. Develop a relationship, if that relationship leads to intimacy great, way to much pressure if all you are worried about is sex and performing.
Marco60 said:Day 53 I feel my libido resuming, after the "dark ages" of the flatline, which lasted about three weeks. The past ten days I had winter holidays with my teenager daughters, and I forgot completely about my own problems . I work alone and see always the same people: on holidays, being sometimes in crowded environments, I could verify an increase of my interest for women, although sporadic. I met a very young and attractive brazilian girl at the airport, we had a long conversation while I was waiting my flight. At the end she asked for my name and when we shook hands she held mine longer than usual looking with candy eyes, a very nice feeling, I started to get hard. But she was too young, I did not want to exchange emails etc.
Here many people focus on reboot and monogamy, but I am single and not having a supporting partner (my ex girlfriend turned away when I could not get hard for four consecutive days, over New Year) seeds many doubts about how I will be after 90 days of hard rebooting. Maybe I should think of checking my progress, but how can I do? The idea of paying a woman to make sex has always had a depressive effect on me, there is no seduction in prostitution and I do not get excited if I do not seduce a woman. I do not know what to do :-[ .
Hi Totte: the only thing I can tell you is BE STRONG, because you only can get positive results ! I have now more than doubled the 53 days of reboot when I wrote the report you quote, and had no PMO at all during these 112 days. As I wrote many times I had no urges to PMO for the whole period, and very soon (3 days after having started the reboot) I had my first Morning Wood, which now are going on regularly. Later on I also had sex with 3 friends in the same night, and an even better session another day later. I continue to be single but I am looking for a girlfriend, also because I feel confident about myself.Totte said:Hi Marco60
Folowing you will help me i am 52y and i am married but i feel the same in many ways! I am impressed for the strangnes you shove!
I have the same question even do i am only restarting at day 1 when will there be a good time to test the it...
Cudos to you....
Totte
Marco60 said:Hi Totte: the only thing I can tell you is BE STRONG, because you only can get positive results ! I have now more than doubled the 53 days of reboot when I wrote the report you quote, and had no PMO at all during these 112 days. As I wrote many times I had no urges to PMO for the whole period, and very soon (3 days after having started the reboot) I had my first Morning Wood, which now are going on regularly. Later on I also had sex with 3 friends in the same night, and an even better session another day later. I continue to be single but I am looking for a girlfriend, also because I feel confident about myself.Totte said:Hi Marco60
Folowing you will help me i am 52y and i am married but i feel the same in many ways! I am impressed for the strangnes you shove!
I have the same question even do i am only restarting at day 1 when will there be a good time to test the it...
Cudos to you....
Totte
Thus my encouragement to you and everybody is: GO ON, the results will certainly come !
Some people write that just a moderate MO without P during reboot is not prejudicial of a good final result after (more or less) 90 days. I can only say: I do not know, I decided to go the hard way because my penis had become insensitive to any stimulation different from my own during M. Now when I get the soft hand of a woman on it I immediately get hard.
I think everybody by now understands that I regard sex as a healthy physiological activity per se: definitely I do not see sex without love as a sin. I did sex with friends with whom I had no emotional implications to test the effectiveness of reboot, and it gave me confidence. Had I had a supportive girlfriend next to me I would not have tried to lay with three friends in one night, but I am not as lucky as you guys who have your spouses besides you.