And now I understand.

Finally

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Hey everyone.

My name is Matt. I am 29. Gabe has already told my story to a T here https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kGGxXHBVDYU, even the same TV show on the playboy channel back in the day, with the old woman explaining where to find the G Spot.

I am here because last night, I had the most perfect, gorgeous, laid-back, and fun girl over at my house. She is everything I could ever ask for. The hottest thing I have ever laid a finger on. And in some naughty texting after a couple dates, she flat told me she was ready for sex. I bought condoms. This was planned out.

When she got here, everything went great, at first. We started fooling around, we took our clothes off... and then I could not get it up for her. No matter what we tried. We settled for me giving her oral but... this was supposed to be our magical first time. She was really cool about it, thank God.... but this is my "gabe" moment. When you can no longer deny the problem. Any straight man on the planet would give his left nut, just to have a shot with this girl... and I ended up jacking it to an image she sent me in her bikini on my phone, an hour after the real, breathing person was naked and all over me. That is not a natural evolutionary result of the encounter. I am in deep sh*t.

No more denial.

It's time. No more porn. I shared this with her, and she is being understanding. But I will be OK if she wants to stick around or not. I am very good looking and I'll survive if I lose her. I have turned down more sex than should even be legal, in favor of porn over the last few years.  I can find another fish in this great big sea if I have to.

But before any of that, I have to stop this addiction NOW.
 

Androg

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Can you enlist her help? http://yourbrainonporn.com/boyfriend-quitting-porn-5-tips

Show her this TEDx talk and tell her you need to clean up your act. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wSF82AwSDiU&feature=youtu.be

It could cement your relationship....
 

Finally

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I linked her the same video from the OP. She was like "Wow, I like porn too and was gonna ask to put it on to help, but I had no idea. What can I do"
 

Finally

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I just scoured my hard drive for any and all porn or sexy images and deleted it all. Cut off my online memberships too. That was the most empowering thing I have ever done.

I look forward to the day I start noticing all my beautiful coworkers, girls at bars, the supermarket, all of it. And I will do anything to make that happen. F*ck porn. Breaking my chains.
 

Finally

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A little over a week in, and I already know this is going to work.

For about five days I was pretty miserable with the urges, but I survived them they have subsided.

The last two days I have woken up with an erection. That had become increasingly rare recently.

I have been sleeping better.

I made a conscious effort to kinda check the girls out at work. They still don't really do much for me, even though most of them are gorgeous. But I did notice them touching me, smiling at me and making eye contact, etc. They and all the rest of the girls in the world will still be around when I get outta this slump.

This makes me think... I have worked there six months now, and never made a move on a single one of them. I wonder if they think I am gay? Heh.

Just wait until this raging sex drive of mine is realigned with nature, ladies.
 

Finally

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The girl I have been seeing has seemed pretty detached, not that interested in seeing each other, etc since that night I tried and failed to have sex with her. I have prepared myself for the possibility that I could lose this awesome girl as a direct consequence of my porn addiction.

Maybe she will come back around and maybe she won't.

I will be OK either way.
 

Finally

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I am kinda depressed, but I am hanging in there. I am starting to get more urges late at night like this. Been just putting on a movie, or lurking here or /nofap.

Still haven't seen her. She didn't answer my "what's up" texts today. Maybe she's gone, or just being distant. Whatever.

I am going to do this. I am done looking at increasingly weird porn and jerking off alone. I am going to be a normal, sexually active guy.
 
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