Today is day five. Off the top of my head, here are some of the benefits so far of being clean:
- I feel less morally compromised. Just better overall. I feel cleaner.
- I'm more present with friends and family.
- I've installed a phone use tracker and I've been on or under two hours a day each day since the start of this reboot. I'd like to get this down further, maybe to 1h30, but it's helped me examine the phone usage side of things.
- I was having some trouble with how my penis felt (oversensitivity) but that's all gone
- I don't feel like I have to plan times when my wife and I have sex. We had it spontaneously on Friday night before bed, which was really good.
- I can go to church today with a clean outlook and knowing I'm not compromised.
I've still got a long long way to go. I still feel like my spiritual life is not where it should be, and I'm still stressed about work. Both of these are areas that I need to focus on, so that I don't fall foul of the triggers that lead me to relapse. Also I need to not look back. If I'm honest with you all, part of the reason I quit was because I had a very open offer of sleeping with another woman who lives locally to me. On Tuesday morning I had a crossroads moment: if I keep going with this I could destroy my marriage and family for the sake of my lust. In spite of the massive danger, there's still a part of me that grieves for what I've walked away from, and I need to let that part of me die entirely. Or more actively, I need to kill it.
- I feel less morally compromised. Just better overall. I feel cleaner.
- I'm more present with friends and family.
- I've installed a phone use tracker and I've been on or under two hours a day each day since the start of this reboot. I'd like to get this down further, maybe to 1h30, but it's helped me examine the phone usage side of things.
- I was having some trouble with how my penis felt (oversensitivity) but that's all gone
- I don't feel like I have to plan times when my wife and I have sex. We had it spontaneously on Friday night before bed, which was really good.
- I can go to church today with a clean outlook and knowing I'm not compromised.
I've still got a long long way to go. I still feel like my spiritual life is not where it should be, and I'm still stressed about work. Both of these are areas that I need to focus on, so that I don't fall foul of the triggers that lead me to relapse. Also I need to not look back. If I'm honest with you all, part of the reason I quit was because I had a very open offer of sleeping with another woman who lives locally to me. On Tuesday morning I had a crossroads moment: if I keep going with this I could destroy my marriage and family for the sake of my lust. In spite of the massive danger, there's still a part of me that grieves for what I've walked away from, and I need to let that part of me die entirely. Or more actively, I need to kill it.