I am 57yo, and this is a not secondary detail. Today I scored a first significant success since I started a hard reboot, 63 days ago: I made love three times. But before arriving at that, it is important to know how and why I decided to start the hard reboot.
I am divorced since 9 years, and during these years I did my best to build stable relationships. My last attempt was also the most devastating: I had a relationship with a woman whom I deeply loved and respected. She lives in a different town, thus our meetings were rare. Mainly for this reason, I continued to abuse of P, abundantly available and free over the net. Over New Year eve we spent four nights together, and all these nights I failed miserably to reach even the minimum erection. Note: like an idiot I spent hours every day before her arrival doing PMO, I was really addicted, even to the detriment of my job.
No wonder that after this experience my now ex-gf liquidated me with a couple of short emails. Maybe she was right, I do not blame her: in any case she did not even tried to ask why I had changed. But it is ok: obviously it was mostly me who wanted this relationship. I do not know, we do not listen each other since those days.
I was deeply blessed and felt humiliated. I started immediately to look over the internet and fell on this Forum. Reading stories similar to my own I found plausible the suggestion about the neurological mechanism of PIED, and decided to follow the hard reboot (no PMO, no touch to alleviate desensitization). Very soon I started to have again morning woods, which I had lost long time before. Although it should have lasted 90 days according to the suggestions given here, I had this opportunity of making sex and I decided to try. I had only fears: fears of failing, of collecting another failure after the four consecutive ones of almost two months before. Instead, all three times I succeeded to get erections and the first and third time also to complete with ejaculations. The first erection was not complete, and I had a PE. The second time I had a solid erection but without E, and the third time I was almost normal. The second time it was my partner who insisted, and I did not want to delude her and I accepted, although all three times (and even now) I was not sure that I could have succeeded.
Despite the fact that these can be regarded as three successful experiences, I will continue the hard reboot now until the end, after having agreed with my (girl)friend (we are not in love, but we are good friends and we like each other). However, the bottom lines are two: 1) Reboot works even for a rather old man like me, 2) I have no sexual or physiological problems. Although 2) only matters to me, 1) is good message for all of us, particularly for mature men.
I am divorced since 9 years, and during these years I did my best to build stable relationships. My last attempt was also the most devastating: I had a relationship with a woman whom I deeply loved and respected. She lives in a different town, thus our meetings were rare. Mainly for this reason, I continued to abuse of P, abundantly available and free over the net. Over New Year eve we spent four nights together, and all these nights I failed miserably to reach even the minimum erection. Note: like an idiot I spent hours every day before her arrival doing PMO, I was really addicted, even to the detriment of my job.
No wonder that after this experience my now ex-gf liquidated me with a couple of short emails. Maybe she was right, I do not blame her: in any case she did not even tried to ask why I had changed. But it is ok: obviously it was mostly me who wanted this relationship. I do not know, we do not listen each other since those days.
I was deeply blessed and felt humiliated. I started immediately to look over the internet and fell on this Forum. Reading stories similar to my own I found plausible the suggestion about the neurological mechanism of PIED, and decided to follow the hard reboot (no PMO, no touch to alleviate desensitization). Very soon I started to have again morning woods, which I had lost long time before. Although it should have lasted 90 days according to the suggestions given here, I had this opportunity of making sex and I decided to try. I had only fears: fears of failing, of collecting another failure after the four consecutive ones of almost two months before. Instead, all three times I succeeded to get erections and the first and third time also to complete with ejaculations. The first erection was not complete, and I had a PE. The second time I had a solid erection but without E, and the third time I was almost normal. The second time it was my partner who insisted, and I did not want to delude her and I accepted, although all three times (and even now) I was not sure that I could have succeeded.
Despite the fact that these can be regarded as three successful experiences, I will continue the hard reboot now until the end, after having agreed with my (girl)friend (we are not in love, but we are good friends and we like each other). However, the bottom lines are two: 1) Reboot works even for a rather old man like me, 2) I have no sexual or physiological problems. Although 2) only matters to me, 1) is good message for all of us, particularly for mature men.