Rich, I've been really pleased to see your progress and so it was a bit sad to see that you've relapsed. I hope you're able to pick yourself up. I've got some advice for you but ultimately this is your journey.
My observation is this: you were always going to relapse from the moment that you decided that masturbation was going to form part of your reboot. I think that masturbation is probably too closely tied up with pornography for you to be able to use it as an outlet for your sexual energy. It's like this: I've never had a gambling habit, so when I go into an arcade at the seaside with my kids, I'll happily spend ?1 trying to win them a cuddly toy from one of the machines. But if I don't win, I'll walk away, no harm done. If I was a gambling addict, settling foot in an arcade would probably leave me ?200 poorer.
I have failed in a similar fashion. The last time I failed, I convinced myself that I could go on a chat site and chat cleanly. A week later I was fully relapsed.
Like I said, it's just advice, take it or leave it. But I think sometimes it's worth foregoing one pleasure for the sake of avoiding temptation. I hope you're able to get started again.
My observation is this: you were always going to relapse from the moment that you decided that masturbation was going to form part of your reboot. I think that masturbation is probably too closely tied up with pornography for you to be able to use it as an outlet for your sexual energy. It's like this: I've never had a gambling habit, so when I go into an arcade at the seaside with my kids, I'll happily spend ?1 trying to win them a cuddly toy from one of the machines. But if I don't win, I'll walk away, no harm done. If I was a gambling addict, settling foot in an arcade would probably leave me ?200 poorer.
I have failed in a similar fashion. The last time I failed, I convinced myself that I could go on a chat site and chat cleanly. A week later I was fully relapsed.
Like I said, it's just advice, take it or leave it. But I think sometimes it's worth foregoing one pleasure for the sake of avoiding temptation. I hope you're able to get started again.