AppleJack
Active Member
Well it's two years since d-day, it's put me in a surprisingly melancholy mood as I have been doing so well.
Update on him, I caught him ogling a woman just before Xmas, he lied about it and as per my boundaries I requested he leave and then he moved back a couple of days before Xmas. As far as I know nothing else has happened since. He haphazardly does recovery.
Update on relationship, I've come to an acceptance that things won't ever be fantastically great because what I need for that hasn't happened and I don't see that changing. I've chosen to make peace with, i can't forgive though because those things that i requested repeatedly to heal things haven't been done, so acceptance is where I'm at (as per a book on forgiveness that I've read and used as a guide).
Update on me. I've gone back to work part time after being at home with the kids full time for the last 6 years. It's great, I really enjoy what I do and it's good to feel useful and appreciated and to feel like I achieve something. I love being a mum too but it does get like groundhog day at times. I like having my own income too, gives me more peace of mind about the future knowing that I can support the kids and myself. I no longer feel financially trapped and the relief of that has been amazing to my overall state of being. I'm enjoying life, I did what Paula Hall suggests and built up the other pillars of my life. Whatever happens in the future I'll cope and I can build what I want out of it. My focus has shifted off the relationship and all the drama of addiction and onto me and what I want for myself and the kids and building that.
Update on him, I caught him ogling a woman just before Xmas, he lied about it and as per my boundaries I requested he leave and then he moved back a couple of days before Xmas. As far as I know nothing else has happened since. He haphazardly does recovery.
Update on relationship, I've come to an acceptance that things won't ever be fantastically great because what I need for that hasn't happened and I don't see that changing. I've chosen to make peace with, i can't forgive though because those things that i requested repeatedly to heal things haven't been done, so acceptance is where I'm at (as per a book on forgiveness that I've read and used as a guide).
Update on me. I've gone back to work part time after being at home with the kids full time for the last 6 years. It's great, I really enjoy what I do and it's good to feel useful and appreciated and to feel like I achieve something. I love being a mum too but it does get like groundhog day at times. I like having my own income too, gives me more peace of mind about the future knowing that I can support the kids and myself. I no longer feel financially trapped and the relief of that has been amazing to my overall state of being. I'm enjoying life, I did what Paula Hall suggests and built up the other pillars of my life. Whatever happens in the future I'll cope and I can build what I want out of it. My focus has shifted off the relationship and all the drama of addiction and onto me and what I want for myself and the kids and building that.