Hi Broken Soul,
Please take care of yourself in this time. I do feel like I can relate a bit to your shock. As I have attempted to get to the bottom of my addictions, I have been forced into a dark place, capitalism's dark underbelly. I don't mean to shift the subject into anti-capitalism, but believe me, in researching addiction you do get there. What could push the son of an extremly successful businessman and CEO towards socialism? Understanding how addiction is heavily used to make money in business. My Dad worked for technology companies, but even they are not wholely innocent. They do use marketing techniques that make use of addiction somewhat. But look at the biggest selling products. Porn is one of the biggest. Yes most porn is free now, provided on name brand websites that provide it for free. How are those companies making money? Well, off of advertising mainly, and by providing information from viewers directly to advertisers. Just like Google and Facebook. Also, if a porn addict starts to get interested in a particular porn star, their website will have a paywall. I personally have never spent money on porn. But that is how it is done and that is how porn addicts pay for porn, even if they don't pay for it directly. But business is all about getting people hooked. There is a reason everything at the grocery store has sugar in it. To get us to buy more sugar. Addictive products are a main stay in the economy. Even a pair of sneakers is sold partially by addictive models.
What is the point of all the above? To get you to see that yes, it can look awfully hopeless out there. On the surface it looks like everyone is hooked on everything, but dig a bit deeper and you will find lots of people fighting the status quo. There are lots of books talking about how bad sugar is for us. There are lots of books talking about porn and porn addiction. So yes, if you look hard enough you will find a man who does not use porn. Maybe an ex porn addict who is committed to never going back. You never know.
Personally, after a few reboot attempts, and six days into this reboot, I can tell you that I have begun to notice the ubiquity of using sex to sell products, and how often women are dressed down in media, and it has started to get to me. It annoys me more often than it attracts me now. And we recovering addicts can eventually learn to find it insulting. Why would the makers of Game of Thrones think we want to.see boobs rather than learn more about the character? Why does Netflix feel that they can just add a supermodel to a show, who lacks any skill in relating to what the cast members do, just for ratings? Why do they think they can do that? My point is that we do wake up during the rebooting process. We get unplugged you could say.
I am.going to stop talking now. Best wishes as you continue this journey.
Rich