Do you need to quit technology to recover??

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Mroctupus

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I think for beginning it helps. You have to completely remove the access to porn as option till you get the urge and find out what is underneath the urge if it?s desire for connection, boredom, sort of procrastination, something to feel better about the bad situation and etc. You then can identify the need and meet it in different way, may be a pick up lesson, maybe developing a hobby, maybe joining a sport team, change of job, planning for some goal you value and etc. With porn being accessible and option you choose the easy and practiced path but it later gives you the negative effect so removing porn as option for first 90 days is a must imo. You should be able to achieve that with porn blockers
 

DepressedAndOut

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I don?t have any urges for porn, so it?s not a danger to me.

I?m just wondering how serious are the effects of using the same medium as your porn source, since we really don?t know for sure as its removal (the use of technology) is not something that many people attempt.
 
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Mroctupus

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One medium in oppose to paper and peeping through window?lol
 

doneatlast

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It is subjective, but as a generalization, I'd say most people will have to cut back and modify technology use in some way.  It would be hard to imagine a reboot with all other tech usage staying the same.

Chances are good we have some tech related triggers.  Sitting at the computer in the evenings checking email, looking at social media, fiddling with our phones before bed, all of these things are first steps to porn for us.  Yeah, sometimes we just ran home after work and opened the porn, but we likely had a routine that led up to it.

Personally, I was a bit lucky that I hated looking at porn on my phone.  The sites I liked never loaded right (two were cam sites, another was a message board that didn't have a mobile version), and my computer was always my main source.  I seriously cut back on my main computer, and left it off most of the time.  I did most things with my phone.  It wasn't a fool proof method... obviously, if I wanted to relapse, the phone was easy enough of a source.  But, it did remove some triggers.  I also gave up maintaining an online dating profile, and that helped greatly.  That was always a big trigger for me.

Again, it is subjective.  For some it will mean restricting during certain hours or in certain places or staying away from certain sites.  I'm sure it would help a lot of people if they could just go without tech all together for a while.  I wish I could do that myself, but it just isn't practical in the year 2018.  Heck, I wouldn't even be able to pay my bills.  Many of the places I deal with won't even send me a paper statement if I wanted one.
 

bob

Respected Member
I for one have not given up technology.

I tried blockers but my work with the internet made this extremely frustrating. Not that they aren't a good idea. I just couldn't use them. I have turned of Instagram. Imagery is very important to me and i use Instagram to support that (non sexualized) content.

That isn't to say that this has caused slips and relapses. It has. I just chose not to eliminate the technology from my life. At this point, i am moving forward.

Peace
 

DepressedAndOut

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I'm not particularly worried about relapsing, just about how the processes of recovery of your brain might be affected by the use of technology. 
 

Gabe Deem

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@DeppressedAndOut
Do you need to quit technology to recover??

No. But do whatever you feel you need to do. If that means staying away from tech temporarily, or for an extended period of time, then do it. I recovered using technology the entire time (besides a few weekends where I did unplug and read books. A temporary time unplugged from the internet is a good idea). So have countless others. Getting educated online, reading forums, watching education YouTube vids, messaging others in recovery, were all a huge and helpful part of my, and many others, recovery.

You want to avoid any behavior that may reinforce addiction pathways in your brain, namely, the seeking and searching of artificial stimulation.

Read this FAQ for the best practical advice on this topic: https://www.yourbrainonporn.com/what-stimuli-must-i-avoid-during-my-reboot-did-i-relapse

Hope that helps.
 

Fappy

Respected Member
Its a good question. But in the end, you need to do whatever the fuck you need to do to recover! Quit technology, quit using the internet, anything you gotta do.
for example, I used to dress up like a clown and drink cheap wine all day and fap to porn. the fapping to porn was the end result. it was the dressing up like a clown, often in clown suits that I had procured from charity shops, and drinking of cheap corner store piss at 3am that led to me fapping. I eliminated those two things and after a time was able to stop the net-porn fapping sessions.
the point is, you've got to quit whatever you need to quit to get better.
 
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Psyc Ops

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@Depressed.  If you have to ditch your tech during the reboot to quit, ditch it.  The reboot is temporary. 

@Reformed.  I agree with everything you said.  And, thanks for ruining clowns for me forever.
 
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