achilles heel said:Read your journal and can relate a lot to the evolution from pornstars to amateurs and the infinite stash. I also know how you feel when saying you couldn't delete it, because I made the exact same mistake at the beginning:
Megatronz said:Day 0 - Consolidated my stash and made it very very difficult for me to access it. Couldn't bring myself to delete any of it. :'(
You made it difficult to access to, but your addicted brain still holds on to the thought that one day you can go back. Because you already miss porn and you miss the dopamine high. Throughout the journey of abstaining from porn you may experience horrible cravings and withdrawals and at some point you will go back if you keep that backdoor open. User William, who wrote an incredibly helpful thread (http://legacy.rebootnation.org/index.php?topic=1256.0) called it the alcoholic who keeps a bottle in the house 'just in case'.
We are here because we are addicts, we will never be able to just get a controlled dose of porn, but as soon as we enter the binge, we will binge for hours. Therefore we have to gain a perspective of completely letting go of porn in all its varieties forever which includes to delete the whole stash. When I first did it, a few days later I tried to recover everything with a data recovery software. Thousands of files and thousands of hours of work couldn't be lost! Well, in reality the only thing I lost were the thousands of hours I spent in front of the computer watching porn and colleting this shit!
I can just recommend the thread above as it helped me a lot and I wish I would have read it earlier to avoid mistakes. Just believe me if I give you the advice of completely deleting EVERYTHING you saved. Search a free software called "WipeFile", install it, select the whole folder(s) and delete it by NATO standard (overwriting files 7 times) so you won't be able to recover it. Let the software do the work and leave your house to distract yourself while the safe deleting is in progress.
I wish you all the best on your journey and hope you don't get this advice wrong, it's just that I recognized my own thinking that lead to relapses at the beginning and hope you might avoid them!
Glad you could relate! Thanks for sharing the links, I'll take a look through. I just couldn't bring myself to delete it. That collection took YEARS to build and some of it isn't stuff that you can find freely again on the internet today. Unfortunately, yes, I do have an attachment to it. It sounds really shallow and weird but until my brain has proof that I can be attractive / get with similar girls in real life I don't like the idea of losing the ones I have stored if that makes sense? I do realise how odd that sounds haha.
I'm hoping I'll get to a point one day in like 10 years time where I'll be so content with life I can just be like, "Hah, I don't need this anymore" and wipe it all. I guess I also kept it with the idea that I might revisit it again in 40-50 years when I'm an elderly man (and say my wife has passed) to relive my youth. I think if I deleted it now, like you, I'd be scrambling for the recovery software and get myself into a really bad place. It's really not in easy reach place for me so I would have to get myself very very worked up to even bother trying to get access to it.