Like in all areas of life, I believe that it is impossible to succeed until you refuse to be a victim any longer. We all suffer from our addictions greatly. I'm currently suffering through some rough stuff myself. You will fail infinitely before achieving success. My advice to you is this: Learn everything you can. Each time you relapse into porn use, treat it as a learning experience first and a defeat second. Research what is happening to your brain and commit it to memory. Talk to others on this forum. These are good people who are suffering just like you and they want you to succeed just as they themselves want to succeed. It may take months or even years to fix, but you can achieve sobriety. I believe in you. We all do.