Hey Guys! New here and wanted to write a bit about my journey in case it could help anyone. I'm a 27 year old guy from Minnesota and I have had PIED for the last few years without even realizing it. I'm encouraged by all of your stories and it helps SO much for me to hear you guys and realize how damaging this thing is. Just a side note, I am a Christian and everything I do or say is through a perspective of being in relationship with Christ.
So here's a few things about my story:
1. I've been looking at porn since 13 yo and started touching myself at 9. Have continued to masturbate consistently since.
2. Have had quite a few sexual encounters with woman but since I have become a Christ-follower, I'm waiting to have sex next till I'm married.
3. Stopped PMO in college for 2 years out of conviction but relapsed into the last few years where I have fallen into a huge pit of video chats, more extreme porn, and chronic masturbation.
4. Over the last year, have gone several months without PMO, but eventually fall back into it after around 2 months.
5. Am now on the longest stint I've been on this year with 3 months under my belt! This WILL be the rest of my life and I have no desire to look at porn ever again.
I want to give a few tips for a successful recipe as I have gone LONG stints without PMO. They include:
1. For ME, staying in His presence and creating deeper intimacy together is the most important thing for me
2. Journaling my emotions and going to therapy once a month has helped me understand that I get the most tempted when I feel anxious/rejected
3. Connecting with people that I know deeply and who know me deeply
4. Lifting, playing sports, researching PIED more every week, having goals, going to bed/wake up early, eating healthy, stopping alcohol/tobacco, etc.
5. Add an expounding list of "why's" in terms of why I don't look at porn. Look at it EVERY time I'm tempted and it has talked me off the ledge more times than I can count
Hope this helps! Please please please don't give up and know that Jesus is for you and wants to walk with us as we beat this thing. You are loved.
Danny
So here's a few things about my story:
1. I've been looking at porn since 13 yo and started touching myself at 9. Have continued to masturbate consistently since.
2. Have had quite a few sexual encounters with woman but since I have become a Christ-follower, I'm waiting to have sex next till I'm married.
3. Stopped PMO in college for 2 years out of conviction but relapsed into the last few years where I have fallen into a huge pit of video chats, more extreme porn, and chronic masturbation.
4. Over the last year, have gone several months without PMO, but eventually fall back into it after around 2 months.
5. Am now on the longest stint I've been on this year with 3 months under my belt! This WILL be the rest of my life and I have no desire to look at porn ever again.
I want to give a few tips for a successful recipe as I have gone LONG stints without PMO. They include:
1. For ME, staying in His presence and creating deeper intimacy together is the most important thing for me
2. Journaling my emotions and going to therapy once a month has helped me understand that I get the most tempted when I feel anxious/rejected
3. Connecting with people that I know deeply and who know me deeply
4. Lifting, playing sports, researching PIED more every week, having goals, going to bed/wake up early, eating healthy, stopping alcohol/tobacco, etc.
5. Add an expounding list of "why's" in terms of why I don't look at porn. Look at it EVERY time I'm tempted and it has talked me off the ledge more times than I can count
Hope this helps! Please please please don't give up and know that Jesus is for you and wants to walk with us as we beat this thing. You are loved.
Danny