Update - 5 weeks in - Does looking at my naked wife release dopamine?

freedom77

New Member
I am well over a month in with no PM, though I have probably had maybe 4-5 orgasms through intercourse with my wife during this time.  I get the feeling that for me, just looking at a good looking woman, especially my wife who likes to walk around our upstairs naked, is enough for my brain to get some serious doses of dopamine.  I don't know too much about the science of all of this, and I am unclear if seeing her naked pretty much every day, is slowing me down, but it definitely makes me horny.  I tried to explain what I am doing to my wife, who does not really know too much about my history with Porn use-age.  She knows I have used it, though not how much.  I have tried to explain basically that I am attempting to quit masturbating all-together though, and she thinks this is a good idea.

Some things I have noticed so far:

-Dreams - I find myself remembering my dreams more often, which is unusual for me.  They also often seem to have some sexual content in them and seem to be more vivid.

-More musical - This will sound strange, but it is also the truth.  I don't quite know if this is just a happy side effect of me feeling better about myself, or if there is something at work in my biology.  I play guitar/banjo in a number of bands, and I can say, that I am playing perhaps the best I have ever played of late.  Seriously, every jam is pure joy for me the past few weeks.  This alone has more than solidified me on my path.

-More confident - Though not always true, I have noticed this as well.  In general, I feel less anxiety in situations where I historically would feel anxiety otherwise.
 
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OSS

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Yes dopamine will be released when you look at your naked wife. Keep in mind dopamine spikes all the time. Dopamine is good, the problem is super-normal stimuli that spikes dopamine beyond the "natural threshold". When I say natural threshold I mean activities we evolved doing regularly sex, eating, hunting, exercising etc. Super-normal stimuli which spikes dopamine 'too much' are mediums such as porn, drugs, binging on fast food daily etc.

It's fine to have sex/look at with your wife. However you may benefit from reducing orgasms for a few months, especially if you have ED. You can still have sex/oral just stop early. Gauge yourself, if you feel like you NEED to orgasm and it's increasing the risk of watching porn then there's no harm in having an orgasm with your wife.
 

fugu

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OSS said:
Yes dopamine will be released when you look at your naked wife. Keep in mind dopamine spikes all the time. Dopamine is good, the problem is super-normal stimuli that spikes dopamine beyond the "natural threshold". When I say natural threshold I mean activities we evolved doing regularly sex, eating, hunting, exercising etc. Super-normal stimuli which spikes dopamine 'too much' are mediums such as porn, drugs, binging on fast food daily etc.

It's fine to have sex/look at with your wife. However you may benefit from reducing orgasms for a few months, especially if you have ED. You can still have sex/oral just stop early. Gauge yourself, if you feel like you NEED to orgasm and it's increasing the risk of watching porn then there's no harm in having an orgasm with your wife.

Couldn't agree more! Great advice.
 

jjhh

Active Member
freedom77 said:
-More musical - This will sound strange, but it is also the truth.  I don't quite know if this is just a happy side effect of me feeling better about myself, or if there is something at work in my biology.  I play guitar/banjo in a number of bands, and I can say, that I am playing perhaps the best I have ever played of late.  Seriously, every jam is pure joy for me the past few weeks.  This alone has more than solidified me on my path.
Never heard anyone else say this, but I have noticed this one too.
I don't play any instuments, but I enjoy just listening to music alot more than before starting reboot.
I used to watch alot more movies and play videogames, now I just like sit and listen stuff.

Edit.
My 5 cents to the question:
As long as seeing your wife directs your mind towards her and not towards porn, that can't be too bad.
 

Viper

Well-Known Member
if you have ED and you feel yourself getting turned on by your naked wife, I think that's a god thing 8)
 

jjhh

Active Member
Does looking at my naked wife release dopamine?

Hmmm.... It could be. It's really hard for us to determine as we haven't seen her.
So please sir, pictures of your naked wife, so we can help you.
Thanks.



Just messing with you. I hope you don't mind as I contributed already.  ;D
 

persian29

Member
looking at ur naked wife and getting a hard on makes u a man..thats all...dont feel any guilt about it what so ever..its not even related to nofap....if u go down this path and let anyone tell u otherwise than ur gonna cause some problems in the head for urself...just my two cents
 

weir

Member
persian29 said:
looking at ur naked wife and getting a hard on makes u a man..thats all...dont feel any guilt about it what so ever..its not even related to nofap....if u go down this path and let anyone tell u otherwise than ur gonna cause some problems in the head for urself...just my two cents

thanks bro..this answer helps me too..

I also have this question in mind
 
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