Day 7
I slept like shit last night. Probably a max of 2 hours. I was just restless, anxious, and depressed all night. I woke at 5 to drop my wife to work, came home, and went back to bed from 6am-10:45. The good part is I don't care that I slept in that long. I clearly needed it, and I need to be kind to myself right now. Whenever I feel tired, I'm going to try and listen to my body and just sleep, for the time being at least until I'm more stable in my recovery and can control the urges that come due to insomnia.
At the moment, I'm feeling pretty negative. I keep thinking obsessing about my personality and being critical. It's like I can't distinguish which parts of my personality are due to P and which are really me. People have said that I can be very charismatic and charming, and I know this to be true, but right now I'm not that at all. I'm much quieter and I feel like I have nothing to say to people. I feel like my wife overshadows me, and I don't assert myself to get my point across in group situations. She's the baby in her family so I guess she was always overshadowed which is why she is so loud and assertive in group conversation. It often annoys me though, a lot. I like to leave pregnant pauses in conversation, and people who have to always fill in the gaps annoy me, because 9/10 I wanted to say something else after the pause, to conclude my point. I should just talk to her gently about it, but I can't really regulate my anger at the moment, and I just end up sounding way more angry than I am or than is needed. I feel generally more quiet and insecure in social situations at the moment. It feels she's so much more outgoing, even though I never considered myself an introvert. I guess I do have an introverted side, but I generally like to be around people. Right now, I'm wondering whether that will all change when I'm clean for longer. What kind of eclectic phoenix of a character will emerge from the ashes?
I feel so removed from social situations, like I don't give a fuck about the outcome at all. It's like the opposite of social anxiety - I just can't be bothered to really contribute to conversation. I don't give a fuck about anyone or anything, I want to, I just can't. I can't even feel love for my wife right now - I don't want to touch her or be touched. I feel like she's bossy and annoying right now.
I think I'm also in a flat-line now, since yesterday. I have absolutely zero sexual desire, including for porn. I feel neutered, and it's really fucking weird. Maybe that's why I'm experiencing all the above irritation, because how can a man be manly when he's basically asexual? Maybe that's why I feel my woman is trying to control me - because I can't speak from my balls in an assertive tone. I feel weak and depleted, and as a result, insecure. Do people perceive me as a weak character? Her family don't know me that well - maybe they do? Does anyone else ever have these kinds of feelings?
Shit, I guess this is social anxiety!
We're leaving very early tomorrow to go camping. I'm really looking forward to the drive. I'm driving my truck and my brother-in-law T and his friend M are up in the cab with me the whole way. It'll be nice to get to know them a bit better, especially my brother-in-law who lives in the South and has a wife and three small kids, which means we don't get much one-on-one time. The drive is around 5 hours long and then there's a good 45 minutes of pretty technical off-road driving to get to the camping spot, which I'm really looking forward to. Something about being in your truck in the middle of nowhere with 4wd on going over obstacles feels very primal. It's incredible what man can build. Well, look at that, 5 minutes in America and I'm already a truck guy! LOL.
Wishing all you peeps from the US a very happy 4th July, and everyone else a lovely weekend.
Over and out.
- Adventurer