AlexthenotsoGreat
Active Member
For some reason I've grown up to have losers for friends. I don't want this to be a rant, but I really feel like they are part of the reason I keep relapsing. Every time I suggest something, one of them is always unsure if he wants to hang out or not. I have a feeling he doesn't even like hanging out with me but just goes along because he's bored. Most of the time he just says no however. My other friend almost never says no to doing something, but he is incredibly immature to the point that I find him annoying a majority of the time, always cracking immature jokes about women (despite that he's 35). I just feel kind of hopeless. I know the whole "independent man"-argument and that we shouldn't be dependent on others for our recovery, but I don't know how I'm going to be able to cope if I don't have friends who are encouraging and supportive, and above all have a zest for life. They know about my problem, so I don't have any issues being honest with them, but they are both so depressed and coping with it in entirely different ways.
So I guess my real question is, how do I deal with this? I've known them since childhood but I feel like I've outgrown them too much to let them drag me down. Should I cut ties or be brutally honest with them and risk alienating them forever? I hate that I feel I can't be honest with them, but I have no other friends. Does anyone else have any similar experience? How did you deal with it?
So I guess my real question is, how do I deal with this? I've known them since childhood but I feel like I've outgrown them too much to let them drag me down. Should I cut ties or be brutally honest with them and risk alienating them forever? I hate that I feel I can't be honest with them, but I have no other friends. Does anyone else have any similar experience? How did you deal with it?