Emergency room

[Jeks]

Hey guys and girls

because its hard to keep track to all the journals i wanted to try something. When you've got an emergency and you are in danger of relapsing and you want to post it in your journal, also post it in here so me or some of the more experienced guys can try to help you more instantly. With time it should also provide a lot of strategies, methods and tricks to get you over the times of danger.

2020 will start soon and i want to help as many as i can to quit this fucking porn shit forever.
Keep your hopes up. There is a life for you, you cant even imagine, that it is possible for you and i want you to put your whole heart and strenght into it to tap into that.

Keep fighting and believing.

 

[quitforeverthenwin2]

Well might as well get the ball rolling on the emergency room. Feel pretty awful, just feel like an opportunity didn't go well and it's like a downward spiral of thinking I alwys mess up and can never improve. Saw a freaking trigger in my suggested words for iphone which is a bummer. Want to handle this feeling in a healthy way 

 

[Jeks]

Hey quit,

well, i think the emotional work is one of the most difficult things to deal with within the recovery. In a certain sense youve got one clear rule within the reboot process, which is: dont use porn.
But when you are emotionally shattered there is no rule like: just feel better. But being aware of where the negative emotions stem from is a important first step i feel like.

Non the less ive used one strategy in my reboot process to deal with negative emotions and disapointment, which i hope can provide some help for you.
Against depressions and negative emotions the most reliable strategy for me is trying to envision myself not being addicted anymore and what i would be able to do.The important part is not to envision yourself having sex, which can cause cravings again, but how i would be able to be more confident with girls or peers or my friends. How i would be able to do better at university because i have more energy, hope and motivation. Being motivated to do sports, because i have motivation to be more good looking. Really whatever your goals are. I dont know which kind of opportunity you feel like you have blown, so really you can fill it with everything ( no porn and sex fantasy! ). Try to feel how it would feel like. Try to feel like you are in this sucessfull situation right now. This hopefully can help you to ease some of your emotional pressure and to regain some hope and motivation.

In addition try to keep in mind that porn did a mighty good job on you to kill your ability to deal with your emotions and that it will just take time to regain this. Try to not put too much pressure on you.

I hope this can help you. Stay strong

 

[quitforeverthenwin2]

Thanks bro for the support! Feeling better. Key was not trying to "solve" anything now, waiting for the emotion to pass.

 

[Jeks]

Thats great, also big brain strat ( sorry, love that meme    )
Just tried it out myself, was not able to sleep because of too much thinking and not being able to calm down. Im still not able to sleep, but dont try to solve it. Feeling much better.