Hey mr.slurps,
for me it was crucial to manage some days without PMO. If you are able to manage this, i think this is a great thing. I was just happy to have a normal day like a normal human being (because earlier i was a daily PMO user). Start with that, i would advice you.
Although i think everyone needs his own strategy in the end i will share you my thoughts.
My earlier efforts were just "stopping PMO for 90 days", with a thought in the back of my head that i will reward myself with PMO. Contradictory in a way. And for other efforts i told myself that i don't want to be too hard on myself, one or two times in 90days can't be that bad. So, we all know where that ended up.
In one thread of William in the forum i?ve read:
You see, Gentlemen, there are two types of guys here. I only have something to say for one type. The first type is the guy who understands porn is a problem for him, but who wants to control it, to cut back, but, to keep it in his life. That type is an alcoholic who likes to keep a bottle in the house, even if it is not opened, and is on the top shelf pushed way back. He is an alcoholic in denial, and sooner or later, he is going on a binge. The first type suffers from hubris and arrogance, and ignorance. The second type is the guy who has accepted porn controls him, that he cannot control porn, but that porn has come to control him. The second type will overcome his porn addiction through humility, knowledge, and suffering--the suffering is only for a relatively short time. Knowing he cannot keep porn in his life and control it, he has committed to deleting it from his life, and thus controlling his life again.
I'm willing that this time it?ll be forever, with everything that comes with it. I have the feeling that this is more than i?ve expected, because it will not only change my habit with PMO, it will change a lot more. Maybe it is like 'i just want to quit porn' and in the end i have to change my whole life, my view and thoughts about myself. And maybe i?ve thought that im better than other guys and now i'm realizing that this thought is completely out of place. It?s not about being better, if you want to be healthy. We'll see.
Cold showering helped me, by the way. I'm using it since 10 years (not the whole year though, it?s too cold in winter) for improving my willpower. Back then i was doing yoga and the teacher told me, hold on to cold showering for 40 days to strengthen your will. It lasted until today. So, maybe you can try with other things to strengthen your willpower for a period of 40 days.
In other words cold showering tells you 'you can do something that one wouldn't do voluntarily, even though you know it has positive effects on the body'. You can search for the effects by yourself, but the sense is a bit the same with PMO, right?
Stay save,
Imsor