When is it time to let go

[need_help]

Hi everyone.

I have a question to the SO (assuming you are female). If your husband has done everything to become better, not gone to back to porn, not masturbating, not even looking a other women in general...

when is it time to just let go, forgive and just see him as someone who has faulted (like everyone human being on the planet) and accept him for the better person he has become.

 

[Gracie]

It  is time to let go when you feel ready.  If you are letting go because it has been x number of months and you .should, it will not work.  The thing that has worked best for me is I can let go for today.  And I work toward that.  And 1 day is doable.  However I have some health difficulties and have neck, shoulder pain and headache.  When I have that, it is much easier for me to be triggered.  So I let my husband know when I am in pain and we talk.  Part of the reason may be he used my pain as a reason to pursue porn.  To save me he said.  So we have to work on that.  He quit sleeping in bed with me when I had surgery for my neck.  So I watch out for that and let him know.  Sometimes I make it the whole day and sometimes not.  But the not is getting less and less.  The one day at a time letting go works for me.