Day 21:
Ugh I missed yesterday's post. I apologized to my wife, and I forgave myself, but it did bug me. I know that I have an issue with creating correct priorities in my life, and I let this one obligation get cast aside yesterday. Its not the end of the world, but it is a good indicator I need to keep working on myself.
We had some good talks about our sex life yesterday. It was really hard to talk about at first, but once we got started I felt better and more open. We ended up downloading a thing called a "sexploration list" and it was an exhaustive list of all kinds of sexual things within the christian realm. It was probably one of the most open convos we've had about our wants/not wants in a long long time. I felt like we took a very large step forward with that, and I'm feeling very happy right now. This of course is a path that I will need to follow for quite some time before I can be called "recovered", but just getting on the right path feels like an accomplishment.
ImSorry, yeah I appreciate what you are saying. And sometimes it does feel better to put it in writing before I say it. But I do believe that I have so incredibly much shame tied to sex, that I need to be able to talk about it to be able to process, plus I have a history of dishonesty so again its something I need to work through. Maybe this isn't an issue that everyone needs to work through, but for me, yes I do.
ShadeTrenicin, thanks man. I feel our path is parallel is many ways. To answer your question yes many times I fear her answer. It makes a whole bunch of emotions bubble up when I hear how I have hurt her, or how she might be disappointed with me.